Showing posts with label body. Show all posts
Showing posts with label body. Show all posts

11.28.2012

CREATING Life

I remember when I was pregnant, some days I felt like a goddess - beautiful, strong, amazing, powerful, curvacious, and sexy... other times, the swelling, backache, heartburn, and nausea was too much to be able to revel in my beautifully voluptuous body! 

Nearly daily, though, I tried to remind myself how sensual and amazing I was! I was creating life! My body was perfectly growing this amazing little person - and I looked good doing it! It can be difficult celebrating yourself and your body when you feel so different - but changing your outlook can change your heart and attitude - which can be a saving grace in those last months of pregnancy! 


Some women have begun pregnancy photography - whether it be sensual, silly, cozy, or abstract. If you choose pregnancy photography, choose a photographer that can capture how you want or do feel during pregnancy. This memento is a literal keepsake of your beautiful form! 

 
Some women have taken to belly casting, a beautiful memento of your pregnant form. A belly cast is a plaster cast of your belly and/or full torso. It can be 'nude' or you can decorate it/have it decorated. It can be hung on a wall, bronzed and used as a centerpiece/bowl or even lined with soft wool and used as a cozy for babies first week of life outside the womb. 

 
http://littlelumpkin.blogspot.com/2008/06/birthing-quilt.html
Some women paint, create pottery, or sketch, reveling in their form and this season of life. Some add words or prose, but all are beautiful works of art that allow women to unfold their innermost self. This artwork can be on full canvas, in sketch books, in clay, or, as the case of the center piece of artwork, on a quilt. 

And others create pieces of wearable art. Pregnancy jewelry is a powerful way to carry your 'talisman of power and beauty' with you at all times. Some women wear jewelry that is pregnancy specific, while others wear jewelry with a saying or a symbol that is meaningful to only them, such as a bead or phrase.

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No matter how you celebrate your pregnancy, do it!  I know that people have probably told you over and over again to cherish this time, you can never reclaim it, but from one who has BTDT, I can attest that these sentiments are very true. 

If you need ideas for how to start, consider reading a book on celebrating self. A perfect one for pregnancy is called Sacred Pregnancy. Another great benefit of pregnancy art and celebration through creative works is that it translates beautifully into birth art.

http://talkbirth.wordpress.com/2011/05/25/birth-altar-wisdom/
Birth art is a wonderful way to express your needs, desires, delights, and yes, even fears, regarding birth; but art allows it to be done in a positive way that can help carry you through your birth journey.

Blessingway beads are oftentimes held, carried, rubbed, kissed, and worn during birth. It gives mom a sense of centering, and is a beautiful reminder of all of the women holding her space in their own ways.

Other women will make collages or posterboards of phrases of strength, beauty, power, and joy for their birthing time. These posters and collages can be used as a focal point for labor and birth, providing women with affirmations and strength.

No matter how you celebrate yourself - both your pregnant and birthing form, do it! After all, at no other time in her life is a woman more in touch with creation than when she is creating a human life within herself!




9.12.2012

Everything's Negotiable

Everything is negotiable... and the flip side? Nothing's truly mandatory.

Want to know the #1 thing that drives this doula absolutely nutty? The statement, "____ won't/will let me."

Why?

Well, let's see, IT'S YOUR BODY!

Sorry, was that offensive? What is offensive to me is the concept that our medical care providers have control over our health care and our bodies. That is simply not true! 
"Many women are not aware that they have the legal right to make their own decisions about caregivers, place of birth, medical procedures, treatments, drugs, or diagnostic tests for themselves and their babies. Childbearing women are encouraged to become informed about their legal rights to make the choices that best meet their needs." - Patient Rights at VBAC
Well, I am getting ahead of myself... so, what are these rights?
  • The consent of a competent woman's husband is never required for her treatment.
  • Women have a right to have another woman present during a physical examination.
  • Women can refuse to be examined or treated by anyone.
  • Women have a right to have the father of the child, or another advocate, present during childbirth and delivery.
  • Pregnant women have a right to refuse any medical treatment or drug, including a cesarean section, episiotomy, anesthesia, and pain medication.
  • A woman has a right to change her mind about any decision made before or during labor or childbirth.
  • A woman and her newborn have a right to remain in a hospital up to 48 hours after a vaginal birth and 96 hours after a cesarean section (your goal, however, should be to get mother and child out of the hospital as soon as it is safe for them to be discharged). - Legal Rights of Pregnant Women from ICAN
Remember that no one is responsible for your healthcare but you. As a parent and woman, you hold the ultimate responsibility for the choices that are made during pregnancy, labor, and postpartum, because you are the one who will be raising the child and have to live with the results of the care you have chosen for them and for your own body.
"American parents are becoming increasingly aware that well-intentioned health professionals do not always have scientific data to support common American obstetrical practices, and that many of these practices are carried out primarily because they are part of medical and hospital tradition." - The Pregnant Patient's Bill of Rights from AIM
With this knowledge, women should start making some of her birthing choices that will affect her birth time during pregnancy. The first step would be considering her options. And the next step is making sure that those options are in line with what she hopes for in birth, and then setting in place her advocates (aka birth team).

For some reason, even when women know what they want out of birth, they don't always choose places or people who will necessarily honor those choices. In those instances, whether it was a bait and switch situation, or mom simply stayed with a practice or place that she knew had policies in place that would not support her choices, it is important that she and her non-birth place-affiliated birth team knows what her rights are.

Every woman has the legal right to informed consent or refusal for every medical treatment that is offered. Even if they say it is policy, that you 'have to', or it is 'non-negotiable'. 

The American Medical Association supports this, “The patient has the right to make decisions regarding the health care that is recommended by his or her physician. Accordingly, patients may accept or refuse any recommended medical treatment.”

The ACOG even says that a woman may decline a physician’s advice or recommendation, even during treatment, based on “religious beliefs, personal preference, or comfort.” Women are entitled to “informed refusal.”

Your legal right to make your own choices for you and your babies health care mean that your treatment in your choice of birth place is your decision. Everything's negotiable, whether or not your medical care provider/place would like to acknowledge it.
  • What about when I sign that consent for treatment form at sign in? Even after you sign that form, you have the right to refuse any particular part of that treatment. Picture the cancer ridden person who is given the option of amputation or chemotherapy, even though the doctor believes one course of treatment will get better results. Every step of the journey is your right to refuse or accept.
  • What about if I already agreed to an IV, epidural, pitocin, cesarean, or nursery stay? At any time during your care, you can change your mind, decline treatment, or nullify any consent forms. 
  • What if they challenge me or threaten me? Then challenge them back and remind them of your rights. If it is really important to you, you have legal rights that they must honor. 

You don't have to go in for that scheduled induction. You don't have to agree to a repeat cesarean. You don't have to consent to continuous fetal monitoring, 'mandatory' nursery stay, or 'mandatory' newborn procedures... even bathing and eye erythromycin.

Be aware though, if you decide to decline any treatment recommended by your care provider, you may be asked to sign an AMA (Against Medical Advice) that states you acknowledge you are taking responsibility for your choices.

Before signing that form, though, you can get a second opinion, as you are always entitled to one. This second opinion may not agree with the first care providers opinion and may save you from having to sign the AMA.

For more information on the Rights of Childbearing Women, see here. Remember, your body, your baby, your right to refuse. 

4.25.2012

The Tortoise and the Hare

Average first-time mamas will labor around 18 hours, with an average first-time 2nd stage (pushing) lasting around 2 hours. For some reason, though, our bodies didn't read the textbooks and might  not necessarily know that they are 'supposed to be' 18 hours of gradual labor, resulting in averagely, 2 cm dilation every few hours... 

(note the sarcasm)

Some women (read most women) fall somewhere on either side of these averages... 

Some women have what we call marathon labors. These are the slow and steadies, the tortoise labors, the long and languorous, the gradually tiresomes. Other women have speedy births, short and sweets, the hares of the bunch, the fast and furious, the giddy-up and git er done. 

Both types of labors have their benefits and their drawbacks. And I would like to talk to you about both, and tips on how to manage both, because you never know which type you will be, the tortoise or the hare, until you are in the midst of it. 

The Tortoise
Why might a labor be long and lengthy? Oftentimes, there are underlying physical factors, such as babies position, mom's body, or maternal hereditary precursors... Other times, it is the emotional side of things, such as relationship upsets, distrust in your birth team or birth place, fears of becoming a parent or of the process itself.

Slow and steady labors have their benefits. Many women say that their slow and steadies were much more manageable and easier to stay on top of the contractions. Many women even consider their tortoise births as 'pain free'. Drawbacks? Often times these are the labors that hasty care providers deem 'failure to progress'. These also tend to be the labors where moms forget to stay hydrated and nourished and their bodies tire too soon because of it. Positive outlook and healthy habits/good support are so important for tortoises.


Best odds are to encourage body and mind health until your birthing time begins.
  • Encourage your baby to be in alignment as much as possible by working on positions that encourage optimal fetal positioning
  • Consider chiropractic care to ensure the best odds that your body will be in alignment as much as possible
  • Keep yourself mentally healthy by voicing concerns, talking through relationship issues, enlist the help of a close and trusted friend or professional to listen, and ensuring that you have a healthy outlook on pregnancy, birth, and parenting by protecting your space.
If you happen to be the Tortoise in labor and birth, here are some great tips on how to bide your time wisely during labor/birth:
  • Stay on Schedule! One of the easiest tools for early or long labors is to simply ignore that you are in labor. I know, easy for me to say. A good rule of thumb is this: whatever you would normally be doing at that time of the day/night, stay true to schedule and do those things. Did you have plans to have lunch with a friend? Still have lunch with a friend. Would you normally be taking a midday nap or is it the middle of the night? Go to sleep! Did you want to get some last minute shopping done for the baby or wanted to grab some snacks from the store for your birth team? Now's the best time to shop! The less you pay attention to it, until your labor demands you pay attention to it, the less apt it is to seem quite so long.
  • Keep Stoked! The fire that is... keep your fire stoked... get it? FUEL yourself. You will need fuel (good, nutritious snacks) and hydration (water, labor-aid, gatorade, etc..) to keep your body energized/hydrated and give your uterus the fuel it needs to remain active for any length of time.
  • Cover That Clock! Put something over the faces of the clocks in your home and resist the urge to look at your watch/phone (partners this means you too!). Ever hear the term 'a watched pot never boils'? Well, a long labor never benefits from staring at the clock. It will only give you a tangible/visual confirmation of just how long you have been at it. Likewise... 
  • Timing, Smiming! This is a hard one to retrain partners about. Timing can be a helpful tool or a repetitious bane on labor! When you think you might be in labor, sure, time a set of around 3-5 contractions to get a good base line for how far apart they are, how you are feeling during them, and how long they are lasting. Then, put the stopwatch and pad of paper up and away. When your labor changes (i.e. getting stronger, making you slow down or stop mid-stride, making you breath/make noise through it, etc...) time another set of 3-5. Whenever you do this, update your birth team. When you are done, put the list and the watch away
  • Stay Home! Stay where you are most comfortable. Home is a great suggestion (wink). Eat at your own table, poo on your own toilet, wash in your own tub, and sleep in your own bed.. This is so much better than this. Use the former as much as possible. Don't just the gun and run to your place of birth until things are really hot and heavy. You will be more comfortable and once you go to your place of birth (especially if it is a hospital) points one through three on this list are nearly impossible to be adhered to... you will be reminded of just how long you have been in labor and exactly where you are at.
  • Go With the Flow! It is not uncommon for slow and steady labors to ebb and flow... some contractions might be closer together and stronger, some less strong (although they may or may not space out)... If your body needs a break, it may actually give it to you, sometimes actually stopping for a short while for you to take a nap, regroup, have a snack, and refill your energy tank. Tune in to that body wisdom and do what your body says to do. 
  • Keep Your Fingers Out! When you decide that it is time to go to your place of birth or call your midwife to be with you at home, consider keeping cervical checks to a bare minimum. Cervix' are shy as it is and don't like to be messed with/watched. Plus, rather than encourage a woman with the news of how far along she is, more often than not, cervical checks only discourage mom, her birth team, and yes, even her care provider. Trust your body to know how long it needs to open the best and trust your baby to know what he/she needs will be given to him... in their own timing. 
  • Tune In! And finally, when you can see the finish line and your body is opened completely, don't expect it to be downhill from there and start exerting all of your energy to roar that baby out... unless your body is doing it for you! It's not uncommon for mamas to take between 2-4 hours to bring their babies from 10cm to born. If your body is not giving you that 'urge to push', just hang out, relax, recuperate, eat something, drink something, and take this time to reiterate your 'immediately after birth' plans. When you get the urge to push, tune in to the urge and push when the feeling comes, and don't when the feeling leaves. Conserve your energy and realize that baby is edging down with each urge.
The Hare
Why might a labor be a race to the finish? Again, oftentimes, there are underlying physical factors, such as babies position, mom's body, where mom starts her labor (i.e. if she has been walking around at 5cm before labor starts OR a small/premature baby), or maternal hereditary precursors... Other times, it is the emotional side of things, such as complete trust in the process or an undisturbed birth.

Short and sweet labors have their benefits. I have heard so many times that women 'would give anything' for a speedy birth. It starts fast and ends fast... as one woman said 'I can do anything for 4 hours or less!'. It means that when it starts, it starts in a sprint and all many women need to do is hang on for the ride... Drawbacks though? I have heard many women who have had fast births say 'I wish I could have been more present for it' or 'I wish I could have had more time to get on top of the labor, it just went from 0-100 with no warm up/no gentle progression'. Again, healthy habits/good support are so important for hares, and a chance to reflect on the flip side are so important.


To ensure that you are prepared for the possibility of being a hare:
  • Practice relaxation and make sure your partner is part of it. If you have a fast birth you will want to know how to achieve as much deep relaxation as possible so as to be able to get on top of things/be present. 
  • Read Emergency Childbirth. Just in case.
  • Be sure that your birth team knows your desires for birth so that, if you ask for medication during a fast birth, they know how to encourage you to stay the path.
If you happen to be the Hare in labor and birth, here are some great tips on how to ride the wave of labor/birth:
  • Early Contact! Be sure to clue your birth team in as soon as there is a rhythm that might mean that this is it. Partner, stay put, until/unless there is someone else that mom wants to be there in addition to you, you are her anchor to help her stay rooted. 
  • Timing is Everything! Many whirlwind labors start with contractions close together (5 minutes apart) but contractions are short. Unlike with Tortoise births, if yours start close together, but are short, keep an eye on them. If they quickly turn into 1 minute long or longer and become uncomfortable quickly, again, let your birth team know. 
  • In and Out! Reminders to use the bathroom often (once every 30-45 minutes) will decrease the chance of baby hanging out on top of your bladder more than necessary. Also, since you are sprinting on down labor land lane, you need water and food just as much as the tortoise. Your choices should be quick energy though!
  • Rotation and Dilation! Even though most fast labors mean baby is just gliding down into the pelvis, it doesn't negate the need to be up and moving. To ensure that baby has ample room to rotate through the pelvis as your cervix melts away, be sure to remain as upright as possible, or as hip-OPEN as possible. 
  • Listen To Your Body! If your body says to go to your place of birth earlier than what you had planned, listen to that intuition. If your body says that you won't make it, consider that it very well could be right (most times is right). If you get to your place of birth, only to be checked and told you are not very dilated, consider that it really has no bearing on how close you are to being done - patience and peace will help you to open right along with your contractions! It's not uncommon to 'slow and steady' dilate to a certain point and then open wide rapidly.
  • Stay The Path! If it looks like you might have changed your mind about birthing without medication, chances are, you are probably really close to the end. Hang in there and ride each wave, leaving it behind and enjoying the calm between each wave. 
  • Be Hands On! With rapid labors oftentimes comes rapid births. When you feel the urge to push, consider putting your own hands on your vulva/perineum/baby as baby begins to crown. This will allow you to really check in with your body, regulate your breathing/pushing, and provider your own perineal/vulvae support to minimize the chances of tearing and really ease baby out nice and slow. 
Regardless of if you are a tortoise or a hare in labor, remember that it is not a race to the finish line, and we all get a 'medal'. Staying the path, regardless of where the journey takes us in the end, is the measure of motherhood. Remember, whether it's fast or slow, your baby and body know the way to go!

4.11.2012

Perpetuating Fear

I am going to start with a warning: this is a rant about Christian women and how we talk to one another. 

Dr. Gregory House made an astute observation last season when he said “Pain makes us make bad decisions. Fear of pain is just as bad a motivator”.

Yeah, you who know me know where I am going with this one.

What is our problem?! Who you ask? Us, women! And especially Christian women! We think it is a ‘good story’ to tell of labor and birth horrors. We think it is ‘sharing in the powwow of motherhood’ to tell a bigger and better tale than the last person. We mislead ourselves into believing that we are giving a realistic view of birth to share the bad and the ugly of deliveries. We con ourselves into the notion that it is ‘better for the uninitiated to know ‘the truth’ by giving ALL the stories of birth’.
"The United States has a peculiar history about childbirth. There is a higher level of fear of birth in this country than we see in so many cultures around the world-and I think it has to do with our own peculiar history of absolutely destroying the profession of midwifery in the early twentieth century. When you destroy midwives you also destroy a body of knowledge that is shared by women, that can't be put together by a bunch of surgeons or a bunch of male obstetricians because physiologically birth doesn't happen the same way-around surgeons, medically trained doctors-as it does around sympathetic women." - Ina May Gaskin

Sugar coat it if you will, but giving the gruesome ‘facts’ of a birth of a friend, a family member, or yourself, in a way to elicit a reaction, is fear-invoking. There is nothing to gain here, not knowledge, not preparation, not comfort and encouragement... nothing but fear.

We are called, instead, to Titus 2:3-5
“Similarly, the aged women are called that they be in behavior as becomes holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, but teachers of good things; that they may teach the younger women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God not be blasphemed.”

For those of you who are not Christian, this is still good advice: that the elder women teach the younger women by modeling becoming behavior, giving knowledge, and raising the younger women to be of sound mind (which is the Greek wording used for sober here). Oddly, this is the role that, so often, a midwife will take with her lady-in-waiting: mentoring the mother-to-be in soundness and preparation for laboring, childbearing, rearing, and sexuality.

How can we teach the next generation, or even help this generation to be of sound mind when we are instilling fear and trepidation into their minds at every twist and turn? Not only in childbearing, but in all areas of womanhood… If you don't believe me, consider how many of these you have heard and can finish:

“Oh my goodness, labor hurts SOOOO….”
“And she tore from….”
“I am getting the epidural while I am still in the….”

And it does not start there, it starts at marriage:
“He is going to want sex ALL…”
“Just wait, the honeymoon ends before…”

And it continues beyond childbirth:
“You think you are tired now, wait until…”
“Breastfeeding was a horror. My nipples…”

Let me guess, you could finish just about all of those? It is because we have all heard it. And was the intent of the person saying it to educate and prepare only? I doubt. And, if you have ever been guilty of this crime, you should feel adequately shamed for your hand in instilling fear into the poor young woman in attendance. I know I feel shamed to know that I have been guilty of this as well earlier in my life.

BUT, I believe it is time to stop instilling fear into the ‘uninitiated’. Whether it is in childbirth, marriage, child rearing… whatever area of female sexuality that it is, its sole purpose is to tear down a woman emotionally and mentally. It is time to begin building up.

We need a new generation of women who delight in their relationships, their bodies, their childbearing, and their childrearing. In past generations (I am talking our great grandmothers and before) it was a delight and a blessing to find a husband, to find yourself fertile, and to raise a family. God calls children a blessing, and ‘an inheritance from the Lord’. God says that a man who finds a wife finds a good thing – we are called good things, is this not to be delighted in? He himself instilled the marriage union and blessed it, then why are we cursing it? Every woman in the Bible who gave birth turned right around and praised God! Shouldn’t we praise the process and He that created it before the blessing is given?

Don’t perpetuate the fear of childbirth in a woman, refrain from the ‘fishing tales’ that so many of us have heard about a friend of a friend... instead, give studies and facts, not personal experiences – unless those personal experiences delight in the process and the wonder of our bodies. Reclaiming the awe, beauty, and miracle of birth does not start in the mind; it starts in the spirit - lifting up, praising, and nurturing the pregnant woman – feeding her on goodness, joy, and trust of her body and birth.

Her emotional health is as important as her physical and mental health. From there, we can begin to believe we can achieve great things – like bringing life into the world.

4.04.2012

A Quick History of Medication in Maternal Health Care - (and the Business of Being Born)

originally posted on 5/12/07

Taking the lead from another great blogger I read often - try to find her ;o) - and from a recent viewing of the Business of Being Born - I wanted to touch on the dark blemish of American Obstetrical practice - routine medication for birth. (BTW, it is funny that this was shown as a screening in the midst of a High Risk conference for Vanderbilt - on the heels of a recent development plan).

While watching the Business of Being Born - a WONDERFUL look at childbirth practices in the US - I was struck by one very apparent thing: doctor's know nothing about bodies and birth. They know everything about risk - and, as one OB nurse told me, their job was to take away pain and have a healthy mom - not to get the best outcome.

That mentality was prevalent back in the late 1800's - early 1900's when OB's infiltrated the childbirth field and it is prevalent now. FRIGHTENING! Why is it frightening you say? Let me expound...

Let's start with the advent of anesthesia in general. It all began on October 16, 1846, at the Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston, in a room now called the Etherdome, when William Morton administered the first successful public demonstration of ether anesthetic. This was a great breakthrough for SURGICAL needs, and the news spread around the world quickly. So quickly in fact, that within a month the first modern anesthetics had been given on both ends of Europe, and within six months in Australia and China.

One doctor who heard of the use of ether was James Simpson. Breaking out of his social class, he put himself through medical school and later became the chairman of obstetrics at the University of Edinburgh. He is best known for the forceps which he devised to counter his initial use of ether on maternal patients.

His first maternal patient was a woman whose pelvis was deformed by rickets (a common issue in that time from malnutrition) who delivered on January 17, 1847. These deliveries can be especially difficult because of the manipulation needed to get a baby out of a deformed pelvis.

There was a great concern, though, for this use of ether because of the knowledge that ether often stopped contractions. As well, most babies born from ether-administered mothers had ether-smelling breath, ether smelling placentas, and tires/lethargic/unresponsive babies. So, Dr. Simpson created forceps, to pull babies from their mother's wombs before they were 'too drugged' and to minimize the incidence of failed labors due to ineffective or stalled contractions. Then why was it continued?

To understand the merging of surgical breakthroughs and maternal downfalls, we need to look at the social climate of the time. Two major events were happening: childbirth was taken out of the home and into the hospital (where disease and infection ran rampant), and the feminist movement was on the rise.

"Early feminists campaigned for social reform of all types, for the abolition of slavery and the abolition of the use of alcohol. They were also concerned about improvements in health care, particularly for women and children. They had good reason to be concerned. Although death rates for men and women had been falling throughout the nineteenth century, risks of a woman dying in childbirth had not decreased. In New York City, for example, 15% of deaths of women between the ages of 20 and 40 were related to childbirth. Although deaths from other causes had decreased, deaths from childbirth had not. By 1900, 30% of the deaths of women in this age group were attributed to childbirth." - now remember that those deaths were NOT due to childbirth - but malnutrition causing complications in birth, deliveries being moved to hospitals where illnesses and disease ran rampant, and before the advent of antibiotics - IT HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH MIDWIFERY and THE SAFETY OF HOME BIRTH.

Suffragettes saw maternal health care as a significant area that needed improvements. The only problem is that they focused on the labor of childbirth (pain/discomfort) rather than the true source of the maternal and fetal demise of the time. Not to fault them as the information and scientific breakthroughs were not accomplished yet; in their early industrialized minds, pain equated illness and death.

(Maternal death rates dropped slightly in the US between 1880-90, when doctors rooted out the nature of childbirth fever in relation to cleansing practices in the hospitals. They started washing their hands between women's beds and the death rates dropped. Then, the numbers steadily rose again until 1940, when they dropped once again (steeply and greatly) with the introduction of antibiotics).

Queen Victoria used ether when she delivered Prince Leopold in 1853. From Inside Surgery:

"Queen Victoria went into labor on the morning of April 7, 1853. As her physicians readied her for the birth of Prince Leopold, John Snow positioned a handkerchief moistened with 30 drops of chloroform over her nose and mouth. The Queen had an immediate response to it. Over the next fifty three minutes he reapplied the anesthesia fifteen times, using between 15 and 20 drops each time. The birth was without complication and the child was pronounced healthy, although at the time no one knew that he was afflicted with hemophilia.When accounts of Queen Victoria's labor anesthesia reached the general public, John Snow became an instant sensation and was much in demand by the social elite of London."

The National Twilight Sleep Association was formed in order to support the use of a new maternal anethesiac development begun by a young obstetrical doctor by the name of Carl Gauss. Around 1900, Gauss combined two drugs that had been in the medical armament for a long time to treat childbirth pain. One main component was morphine, used to alleviate pain during surgery. It had, thus far, been avoided in obstetrics because of its effect on the uterus, its effect on the newborn, and its effects on bleeding and infection. The other drug was scopolamine, which causes amnesia - in the past, these had been used as poisons in high doses. Hamlet's father was killed by one of scopolamine's cousins.

Gauss mixed these two drugs and administered them in 'small doses' to his patients - the morphine provided relief from pain while the scopolamine provided the women with amnesia of their labors and what was done to them. The problems? Oh, there are many!!! Scopolamine caused women to lose their inhibitions. They would have no memory of what went on, nor did they realize what was happening, so most of them screamed during labor. They became uninhibited and psychotic. They would thrash about on the bed, causing injuries to their heads. So, their heads were wrapped with blankets or towels, turban-like. They would attempt to claw at the walls or their medical providers, so they were put in straight jackets or their wrists were strapped to the beds. Then, so that they would not fall out of bed, they were put in 'labor cribs' - and were allowed to labor, screaming, tied down, blinded and bound - often in their own urine and feces, and sometimes for days on end, until it was time to birth. The women had no memory of this, the husbands were not allowed in to see their wives, so they didn't know what was happening - and everyone was happy.

Gausses concoction was tried out first in Europe and was found to be less than satisfactory for maternal care. It would probably have died out there had it not been for an infamous article in McClure's magazine. Two female reporter's who were also staunch feminists, accompanied their friend to Germany, where she was traveling to be 'treated by Dr. Gauss'. The woman was administered Twilight Sleep and was ecstatic with it. She simply woke to a baby - with no memory of the labor or birth. The three women decided to liberate American women through Twilight Sleep.

Every woman wanted to have that type of birth. Medical research was not sought as to the safety, and feminist drive demanded quick results. So - the U.S. because predominantly a Twilight nation between the years of 1914-1945 (although my grandmother recounts her story of TS in 1956 and there are reports as late as the 1980's).

Thankfully (and sadly because of what it took) this time in American history quickly collapsed when Frances Carmody died under Twilight Sleep. Although there had been numerous women who had died under Twilight Sleep, she was the wife of a Brooklyn lawyer and happened to also be a huge rally organizer for the Twilight Sleep Campaign. Her husband and her OB assured everyone that her death had nothing to do with Twilight Sleep, but, with a key organizer gone from the game, at the very time she was using something she was promoting, the campaign began to fall apart.

Women began to have windows of remembrance, and by 1948, the baby boom got into full swing and the huge number of women having babies while under Twilight Sleep raised the issue of comfort at a cost. Women began reporting their birth trauma - both physical and emotional/mental. Moms began to speak out. And, in 1958, an article headlined "Cruelty in Maternity Wards" ran in Ladies' Home Journal. It detailed the "tortures that go on in modern delivery rooms.". The response? A flood of women sent the magazine their own horror stories. "I've seen patients with no skin on their wrists from fighting the straps," a nurse from Canada wrote.

"Just let a few husbands in the delivery rooms and let them watch what goes on there," said one reader from Detroit. "That's all it will take — they'll change it!" An Indiana mom claimed, "The whole thing is a horrible nightmare."

Women began desiring and demanding safer births - the OBs were fraught with the problem that they could not guarantee a medicated, but safe, birth. So, in the 1960's and 1970's - many women went back to natural birth. This was short lived, though, as Obstetrician's saw income diminishing... Cue the epidural.

Mothers giving birth in the late 1970s and '80s had more options than ever. They could have a medicated or unmedicated birth. They could deliver in a freestanding birthing center, a hospital, or at home (in most states). They could be attended by a midwife, an obstetrician, or both (in some states). And, through all of these options, they could have their husbands by their side.

What led up to the advent of the epidural? In 1898 German doctor August Bier injected cocaine into his assistant's spinal column. It numbed his lower body, but the next morning he awoke with horrible vomiting and headaches (cue the spinal headache). It took the next 80 years to perfect this. But, by the 1970s, lidocaine was dripped into a tube inserted by needle into a woman's spinal column. By the 1980's, it was all the rage! The hitch? The procedure numbed women to their chests, causing breathing issues and, at times, heart problems.

My question - and the question that Ricki posed in her documentary is this:

What will we find in the near future is the clinically proven downside to epidural births? We NCB advocates already know of the obvious, though seemingly unimportant to many women when compared to an easy labor, risks... But think of it...

- In the late 1880's early 1900's it was chloroform / ether - which inhibited neonatal breathing attempts, caused forceps to be necessary (which caused many horrible scarring issues with babies), maternal reproductive harm, and heart failure routinely.
- In the early to mid 1900's, it was forceps - which were necessitated from the use of 'knock 'em out medications. These scarred women's cervix's, making them incapable of dilating at all or efficiently in later pregnancies, tore ears, noses, and scalps off of babies, and created severe perineal and labial scarring in women. Forceps are still used today!
- In the mid 1920's, it was Twilight Sleep - causing maternal mental, emotional, and physical trauma, more of the same as chloroform did, AND caused a number of incidences of stillbirths.
- In the mid 1950's-60's, it was thalidomide, prescribed to pregnant women routinely - causing the widespread incidence of 'flipper babies' - children who were born with severe malformities, including phocomelia (short limbs and deformed extremities).
- In the 1970's, it was early spinal/epidurals where the needles were too large and the puncture too deep, causing a whopping 50% of women to get debilitating spinal headaches that, at the time, were not treatable.
- In the 1990's, it was Cytotec, used to induce labor (off-label and unapproved). With a HUGE risk rate, it can/did cause stillbirth, neonatal distress, uterine rupture, severe postpartum hemorrhage, and more. Cytotec is still used today!

What do all of these things have in common? NONE of these procedures are tested before they are tried out on pregnant and laboring women. We are used as guinea pigs. So, my, and Ricki's question, again, is: What will we find in the near future is the clinically proven downside to epidural births? And, at what cost?

We have a huge increase in ADHD, ADD, Autism, early and late-onset Jaundice, asthma, and allergies/intolerances... how can we know that these are not a result of our maternal health practices now? We can't. BECAUSE, we are a society driven on comfort and ease rather than health and well-being. Well-being does NOT equate to ease or comfort. And, until we demand better health care, we are doomed to repeat history on different levels - until we learn to choose better for our bodies and our babies and leave the testing to the REAL guinea pigs.

See here and here (pic) for more information on this history.

*Edited to add the great information sent to me by some readers!

2.21.2012

Spinning Babies at the Spaghetti Warehouse

Nothing but photos! It was so much fun to learn so many new skills and to fine tune some already stored skills. Gail is welcome in Houston anytime!


To see some more awesome photos of the event visit my business page at Sage Beginnings... Lots of positions, pregnant bellies, and, of course, Gail!

2.10.2012

Moon Inside You

Female Reproductive Health Throughout The Years 1940's Is it just me or does the gal on sun dial look like Belle? 1950's I am so relieved to know I can still have a picnic during my period. And I'll be sure to wear my nicest dress and take extra time on my hair 'during that time'! 1960's and so on and so forth.. Until now. Now there is a new movie that I would love to see.

2.08.2012

Breast Cancer is NOT a Pink Ribbon

David Jay
Have you heard about the Scar Project? If not, it's about time that you did.

David Jay became interested in starting this project when his wife's twin sister found out that she had breast cancer at 26 years of age.

Originally intended to be an educational piece, (SCAR stands for Surviving Cancer. Absolute Reality) it has become much more for David Jay. He soon realized that his project gave women the ability to not only show to the world their strength, but also their courage and beauty.

  • To read more about the project, see here
  •  To read more about the photographer, see here
  •  To purchase his book, see here
  • To visit them on FB, see here

11.14.2009

Faith and Birth

Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. - Hebrews 11:1

Faith plays an intricate part in birth and the birthing process. Whether you are a Christian, a Muslim, an agnostic, or an atheist.
Faith: sincerity of intentions; 2 a (1) : belief and trust in and loyalty to God (2) : belief in the traditional doctrines of a religion b (1) : firm belief in something for which there is no proof (2) : complete trust : something that is believed especially with strong conviction - Merriam-Webster's Dictionary
Faith works with your body and birth, whereas a lack of faith will work against your body and your birth. Faith works its way into many facets of your birthing time and has a direct correlation with how your relationships can affect your labor and birth experience.
  • Spiritual beliefs - If you are a person of belief, your faith in a Higher Power can be a great source of reassurance and peace during labor and birth. Meditating on verses or singing/humming is a great tool for relaxation and destressing during labor and birth. An example: as a Christian, I have faith that God created a woman's body perfectly to birth, and He gave promises during labor and birth (Isaiah 66:9, Psalm 121, 1 Tim 2:15). This complete trust (faith) allows a believer to let go to her labor, truly believing in these promises.
  • Body and Process - A faith in the process and the woman's bodies abilities dispels fear and perpetuates a positive and health view of the natural aspects and normality of labor and birth. This dispelling of fear removes tension and much unnecessary discomfort during the process of labor and birth and again, allows a woman to wholly let go and give into the rhythms of her body. A woman who is educated to her options can have faith in herself to make the right choices for herself during the birthing time, whereas the woman who doesn't know of her options cannot have faith in herself to make the best choices for herself and allows doubt and angst into her birthing space.
  • Care Providers - this includes your midwife or doctor and nurses or midwifery assistants. It is important to have faith in your care providers: faith that they will advocate for your and your babies best interests as well as your preferences and beliefs in the face of normality. It is important to trust and believe that your care provider will not bully you, shame you, hurt you, or coerce you during your most vulnerable state: labor and birth. When you wholly trust and believe in your care provider, you can leave insecurity and the walls of distrust out of your birthing room and trust their physical touch and dialog freely with them about your concerns, hopes, and desires.
  • Spouses or Other Support people -I have said it before and I will say it again, childbirth is not a spectator's event. It is a privileged, not a right, for people to be invited to attend a woman during her birthing time. If your mother, mother in law, sister, etc.. doesn't support you, if you don't have FAITH that they will advocate for YOUR desires, if you don't trust that they will not weave fear, insecurity, or upset into your birthing room, then uninvite them. Those who will be with you the most throughout your birthing time will have the most influence on your level of faith during birth. The wrong words, the wrong touch, the wrong personality in the room can bend an already vulnerable woman's perception of her birthing space and process and can shake the faith of a very faithful person. Your doula, mother, or significant other should share your faith and belief in the process, your faith in your choices and abilities, if they are to support you. Because, only then can a woman be freed to be what she has to be to accomplish the work that she set out to do.
and so much more...
All the strength and force of man comes from his faith in things unseen. He who believes is strong; he who doubts is weak. Strong convictions precede great actions.
- James Freeman Clarke
Now some would argue that what if your faith doesn't achieve those things that you set out for (i.e. a woman truly wants a natural birth but circumstances truly require a cesarean for the health of mom and/or baby) then faith equates failure and can harm a woman. I disagree with this. Faith is a strengthening, not a weakening. It is a fortifier, giving a woman a hope and a goal.

When a woman has faith in the process, but the process goes awry for whatever reason, a woman who has faith in her birth team and her support team still retains faith, and thus, retains her trust at the time of birth. Trust begets love, whereas distrust begets animosity and indifference.
Love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith, and whoever is of little faith is also of little love. - Erich Fromm


Likewise, faith also means being able to adjust. As stated before, a woman who has faith in the process, and is educated to her options can retain her faith in herself to make the right choices during labor and birth, regardless of the path that her labor takes her.

On this Sunday, I encourage you to take a look at your faith regarding the process of childbearing and work out your faith within yourself, adjusting plans as need be to accommodate faith (i.e. finding a new care provider, taking a childbirth class, or reconsidering who will and won't be at your birthing time) to make your birth the best it can be.

8.21.2008

Say Aaaahhhh.

There was an interesting study done a short time ago confirming a commonly held belief in the childbirth field. This study concluded that the cervix and vocal fold tissue behave similarly when tested.

For decades, professionals such as Ina May Gaskin, Robert Bradley, Barbara Harper, and Maria Iorillo have all said the same thing: when a woman's mouth and throat is loose - so is her bottom. And now we have proof of this: when the throat is open, this opening is reflected in the throat of the the uterus, the cervix.

Part of this is being completely uninhibited. When a woman feels safe and secure enough to use whatever means necessary to birth her baby, without fear of seeming silly or embarrassed, she is more apt to use vocal noises - and this release of tension, as a biproduct, allows any tension in her bottom to release. Consider the very real phenomena of performance anxiety: some people feel it when trying to use the bathroom in public areas, some feel it when singing.. when we feel private, safe, and uninhibited, we are able to open our mouths and bottoms to acheive a goal.

When anxiety sets in, the body reacts by tightening. Fear or anxiety, even the feeling of needing to perform a certain way, creating tension, releases adrenaline (the fight or flight hormone). Adrenaline constricts tissue in the body (think: 'ready to spring into action') and does not allow for softening and relaxing. Imagine when you were really frightened or upset, your vocal register raises, sometimes breaking, sometimes coming out in screeches. These 'upper registers' require your vocal cords to be tight, as your body is when confronted or upset and anxious.

During labor, it is helpful for women to know positive birth sounds and phrases so that she can consiously check her anxiety or fear level and forcefully relax her body to encourage a more easy labor and dilation. A birth partner or doula can listen to the quality and timbre of the laboring woman's voice to assess if it is tight, constricted, or high-pitched.

To encourage better labor sounds, the partner or doula can hum, sigh, ahh, oooh, or even show 'horse lips' in lower-register tones with open glotis. This allows for proper breathing, intonation, moderate distraction, and relaxation. There are many benefits to staying conscientious of your vocal tone:
  • Opens the throat, which opens and relaxes the pelvis
  • Ensures deep and long breathing
  • Promotes relaxation of the mind and body, releasing stress and anxiety, inhibiting 'fear, tension, pain cycle'
  • Serves as a productive pain management tool
  • Creates vibration in the body, which can relax your muscles
To help prepare for understanding of these benefits, it can be helpful for couples to practice 'good labor sounds' before hand. It is often awkward and sometimes even embarassing, but can be a good tool to encourage uninhibited labor and closer communication between partners. Partners understanding, beforehand, that sound is GOOD in labor will be able to be better prepared for the possibility of it occuring. Women practicing it beforehand will understand the difference between productive and unproductive noise for labor and birth.

Remember, open throat, open vagina. And for a small taste of it's benefits, here is a woman who sings during her labor, at 8cm, as a way to encourage an open bottom, a relaxed body, and proper breathing.

1.31.2008

Lies

"Make the lie big, make it simple, keep saying it, and eventually they will believe it." ~Adolf Hitler

"You can't push in that position, it's not safe"

"Your 8 lb baby can't fit through there"

"Ultrasounds are completely safe"

"Down's Syndrome people cannot lead normal lives - it is best to abort"

"Cesarean is the safest option"

"Your baby will die without vaccinations"

"VBAC is too risky"

"Episiotomies heal better and faster than tears"

"I wouldn't suggest anything that would hurt you"

"Induction is just as safe as spontaneous labor"

"Breaking your water will help you finish faster"

"Most first time mom's NEED an episiotomy"

"If you just let me ______ you will have your baby in no time"

"The risks of amniocentesis are less than the odds of having a 'bad baby'"

"Cesareans are completely safe"

"Epidurals carry no big risk"

"A woman cannot safely birth a breech baby vaginally"

"Twins need to be born by cesarean, or completely medicated, it is safest"

"How a woman births is not important"

"The placenta acts like a barrier - nothing bad gets to baby"

"Home birth is irresponsible"

"These tests are necessary"

"Pushing on your back provides the straightest route for baby to get out"

"GD is treatable"

"It is safer to induce at 40 weeks than to wait for normal labor"

"Your baby is stuck, an episiotomy will let him get by"

"Make the lie big, make it simple, keep saying it, and eventually they will believe it." ~Adolf Hitler

What lie are you believing?

12.04.2007

Tokophobia

This is for those of us who cannot relate - to give us a motivator and a healthy dose of empathy.

This is also for those who find the idea of pregnancy and birth incapacitating, frightening, disgusting, or otherwise fearful.

If you fall into the latter group, you now have a term for your fear: tokophobia. The fear of childbirth.

How far do we go back to find the root of this? When did childbirth turn from a normal and natural occurrence, a part of life, into a debilitating fear?

Let's go back to PB (pre-baby/pre-birth). As a young pregnant woman, Sophie* is surrounded by friends and family - those female mentors and confidants that she trusts to give her insight, wisdom, advise, and encouragement. Those women feed her horror stories of women who die in labor, have horrible episiotomies, sepsis, and stillborns. They encourage her to watch ABNORMAL births on "Baby Story", "Special Delivery", and all of the prime time shows that are featuring a birth. They 'encourage' her by telling her how horrible the pain of birth is and to get medication as soon as possible. She is frightened.

But, maybe she was fearful even before that? Perhaps it isn't only about the pain of birth, but what the event means?! Let's go about 3-6 months prior to that... Sophie is just finding out that she is pregnant. Wonderful news right? Wrong. She belongs to a church where, just a few months ago, she saw a young girl in the same situation have to publically repent in front of the congregation. She had been working in childcare, but now was not allowed to. She has a 1 month old and no one threw her a shower. She was kicked out of her Christian College and now lived at home with two parent's who are coddled for the grief their wayward daughter has given them. She is terrified to let anyone know she is pregnant, let alone actually give birth and become a parent. She is afraid the father will leave her for an 'untarnished' version - one that won't be 'stretched out' by motherhood. She has no woman whom she can trust to talk to. She is frightened.

Could that have been where it started? Let's try even further back... Sophie is a middle schooler, about 12 years of age. She is in Sex Education and watching a film on reproduction. The room is dark and it smells like dry erase markers, rubber bands, and boys who don't wear enough deodorant. Throughout the 'reporduction' section, the boys hoot and whistle while the girl's grin nervously and blush. When it gets to the pregnancy section, many of the boy's make snide comments about the woman's changing body and the girl's self-consciously whisper to one another. There are uneasy shuffles as the film gets to the birth section. Suddenly, the screen fills with a woman who is yelling, sobbing, and thrashing, turning purple while a nurse yells at her to hold her breath and push, her husband pants oddly at her elbow, and a doctor stretches her roughly. He performs an episiotomy with no fanfare and no warning, and finishes by grabbing the infant's head and turns it by it's neck, pulling down and out. Once the baby is born, she is handed off to the nurse who hangs him by his two feet and starts shoving a suction down his nose and throat. The film ends. Lights up. The title of the film? "The Miracle of Life". Looking around, she sees 1/2 the class covering their eyes, a few who had to leave for the restroom slowly and shakily return, and the others look at the blank projection screen with gaping mouths and terrified expressions. She feels ill. She is scared.

Maybe not even there? How far do we have to go back? Sitting at a baby shower as a tweenager, listening to her classmates talk about period cramps and how their older sister's say having a baby is a million times worse and more disgusting? When Sophie is an 8 year old, and she overhears her Aunt talk about her cesarean while she flashes her 6 inch, badly healed, scar? At the feet of her mother as a 5 year old, listening to the horrors of early IV narcotics during labor? Perhaps even her own traumatic birth? Perhaps?...

Do any of those resonate with you? If not, you are lucky, being raised in the U.S. culture that we live in today, that it doesn't.

Fear is a strong motivator for making bad decisions. Yessir; it is. So what do we do about Tokophobia? Eradicate it from our culture - one young female at a time. Talk to our daughters early about reproduction and sex. Talk to them about self image. Tell them about the beautiful and NORMAL rite of passage of labor and birth. Fathers, embrace your wives' changing figures - gush over her breasts and handles, beauty and flaws. She is a woman. Refuse to listen to or perpetuate the horror stories of abnormal birth - instead, surround young pregnant women with Truth and Trust.

Break the cycle. Reclaim truth and trust. Dispel fear.

12.02.2007

Journey of a Monkey Momma

Let me encourage you all to visit THIS blog and show this beautiful momma some support. She has experienced an unneccessary cesarean and is now seeking to heal and VBAC. Her video is beautiful a encouraging. And, if you feel led, I am sure she would love you to post her information on YOUR blog to help surround her with loving support from other mommas.

11.20.2007

CPD - an American Error-ridden Epidemic

OK - I stumbled upon this video and have to say that it is definitely one of my new favorites.

This video shows how very faulty and error filled diagnosis' of CPD are in obstetrical circles. women have been led to believe, over and over, that evolution or diet or lifestyle has made humankind grow bigger babies and smaller pelvis'. When it is simply not true. Enjoy!

10.01.2007

We Were Made For This!


Since the dawn of time, women have been having babies the way that nature intended it –moving and swaying with our bodies’ cues, moaning and humming our babies into the world, holding onto our support people, and actively and consciously birthing our heritage.

We were made for this!

Women did not fear childbirth, the hard work that came with it, or the pain that often accompanied it – because they understood that they were designed to carry and birth their own children! Contractions were welcomed with confidence and trust in their bodies’ abilities. The contraction can not be bigger than you, because it IS you.

We were made for this!

Women gave the laboring mothers strength through their words, encouragement, hands, actions, and beliefs. They were not cajoled or encouraged to make it ‘easier’, but to make it right, and strong, and efficient – to birth the way that their mothers and their mother’s mothers did!

We have forgotten, in the last 150 years, how to trust our bodies, and we have lost sight of the best and safest route of birth – all in the name of a comfortable labor and birth. As a result, we have traded out our power, our bodies abilities, and our newborn’s rights to be born into health and alertness. It’s time we reclaimed what we have given away to the hands of Anesthesiologists and Obstetricians.

We were made for this!

9.03.2007

Welcome Molly Rebekah

Jill and Eric, oh what a journey! It seems surreal that we have arrived! I wrote notes down Saturday morning, after leaving the three of you, but I needed more time to really put things together… it was and still is such a ‘high time’. At last, though, it is complete – the miraculous and powerful birth of Molly Rebekah has been achieved; and now, here is the experience in the words of your doula.

You had an early bout of preparation labor on Saturday, August 25th. It started around 3 in the afternoon and finally tapered off sometime around 4 in the morning on Sunday. Mightily discouraged, you and I talked about what may have kept this from being the ‘real thing’. I mentioned that prodromal labor for such an extended period of time can sometimes be an indicator of baby being slightly misaligned in the pelvis. So, on Sunday, August 26th, at my urgings, you attempted the knee-to-chest position and were successful to stay in that position for a full 45 minutes. That night, you found that Molly was pressing down on your cervix more firmly and really nuzzling it, perhaps feeling out her new space to move around. You were up many times that night for the bathroom and Eric noted your ‘laborious’ walk – she had finally engaged.

Monday and Tuesday, you had no Braxton Hicks to speak of, though Tuesday, you found your body to be preparing further with bouts of friendly and frequent runs to the bathroom, along with more mucous discharge. I believe that the knee-to-chest position helped get Molly in a better position because of a number of reasons. First, you were given a break from your Braxton hicks; which indicates Molly was settling down, giving you a rest before starting the real thing along with a non-aggravated uterus due to properly aligned baby. Secondly, the increase in plug/bloody show and her being 'SO LOW' since that time definitely confirmed lightening and settling into the pelvis much more snugly. And finally, her ‘twisting her head against [your] cervix’; some birth psychologists believe that that is a prep indicator of baby 'testing' the route out...

Wednesday marked an appointment with Linda, your midwife. She happily announced that your cervix was no longer posterior, but anterior, and Molly was resting her sweet little head against your cervix. Later that same day, you had diarrhea and light bleeding. Your body continued to work at readying itself for Molly’s entrance into the world.

Thursday, August 30th, you were graced with another set of contractions – Molly testing out the door, so to speak. They began around 4:30pm and tapered off around 3am on Friday morning, August 31st. By daybreak, you were both emotionally spent and were ready to release the anxiousness at starting labor. God was conceded the reigns of worry and anxious waiting, and thus, He was given the permission to start.

That same night, Friday, August 31st, around 7 in the evening, while you and Eric were enjoying “Chocolat”, contractions began yet again. Their timing was, again, around 10-12 minutes, but both Eric and you noticed that they were different, more demanding of your attention, and Eric began to consider that this was it.

Meanwhile, I had gotten my shower and was just crawling into bed when a niggling voice told me, as it had numerous other occasions just such as this, that I would not be falling into a deep sleep anytime soon, but that my dear friend and momma Jill was preparing to guide her daughter into the world. No sooner had I had that thought, and picked up the phone to put it a little closer to the bed, than the phone rang.

It was Eric, calling me at 11pm to give me an update that contractions were the same distance apart as when they had begun, but that you were noticeably more distracted by them. I could tell by his voice that this was, indeed, different then those that had occurred in the past. We talked about timing a few more, before considering going in.

After hanging up, I called my aunt to come into town and watch the children as my husband, Calvin, was out of town. At around 11:45pm, Eric called once again to ask what I thought should be your next step. After hearing that contractions had not picked up measurably, but knowing what I sensed in his paternal heart and my spirit, I recommended that, if you wanted to arrive in time for your GBS treatment (which you had previously decided to do) that you may want to pack up and go in.

Five minutes after my aunt arrived at our home, Eric called to let me know that you were en route to the hospital and your contractions had quickly shortened to 6 minute frequencies and you were showing signs of transition. What a wonderful coach Eric was! I hopped in my car and arrived at the hospital 10 minutes later. I met with Linda briefly in the hall before quietly letting myself into the room.

Walking into your room, I had a sense of exquisite intimacy – the continuation of a romance. Truly, lights low, and with Jill reclining on the bed, in complete repose, concentration, and relaxation, while the attentive hands of Eric roamed her body, searching for any tension, while breathing loving words and lighting kisses on her skin intermittently, oh – it was passion! That same loving attention that had created Molly was now going to help guide her into this world!

At that time, you were 7-8cm and your contractions were coming between 3 and 4 minutes apart, lasting for around 1 minute each. Encouragement and loving touch seemed about all that you needed, reminders to keep the tension out of your shoulders, neck, and face. Your complete relaxation had those around you entranced. Between contractions, we offered you water and reassurance, and you offered us grins that all was well.

Shortly after I arrived, during one such time between contractions, your eyes were not as cloudless, nor your smile as strong, and I watched your shoulders pull up during the next contraction while your toes flexed away from your body. You were beginning to physically pull yourself away from your womb.

I sensed in my spirit that you knew you were coming upon the last stretch of labor and had a silently harbored fear of the next stage – a disbelief in your own abilities. So, with the next rest between contractions, we talked about what your pushing contractions might feel like, how your body was meant for this act, and to not be afraid of the contractions. I encouraged you that, when you felt the desire to pull away in unease, to instead immerse yourself in the contraction, giving in to it and going deep into it.

About 10 minutes later, you felt your first real grunty pushy contractions at about 2 minutes apart. Eric knew immediately what it was and looked up to me with a huge grin on his face before moving his mouth down next to your ear once more to praise you and whisper affectionately to you.

After a few more of these, which seemed to be getting slightly more demanding, you decided to try another position. So, we assisted you in switching to your other side, which was hindered slightly from cramping ligaments. At this point, you felt a strong push contraction and you followed your body’s cue to yoller her down.

It only took one more of this type of contraction for you to know that you no longer wanted your legs together on your side. So Linda, who had arrived back in your room a short time ago, Eric, and I helped you into a sitting position with your knees falling outward. Immediately a look of self possession and purpose came over your face. Your eyes were no longer clouded as your body unfolded, strong and purposeful, yet soft and supple.

With your next contraction, you again began pulled away from the contraction, but it only took a reminder from Linda to envision your body like a “J”, curving down to meet your baby, and myself to sink deep into the contraction and listen to your body. You transformed, in that instant, from a laboring woman into a vessel which channeled an Energy more powerful than yourself, one that you could not contain, but only give into – relinquishing the last visages of control. Gave up and gave in – you began birthing!

Your baby and your body worked in perfect harmony and Molly began to descend rapidly. Lost to the world of midwives and doulas, coaches and hospital rooms, you travelled into Laborland – the only inhabitants being yourself, your baby, and the Energy. Opening your mouth wide and singing her down, your body followed suit and Molly moved to +2/3 station with an intact bag of water. Linda continued pressure on her head with the next contraction and your bag burst, baptizing Eric’s waiting hands in a rush of warm water.

You were utterly and completely given over to labor, working with your body, moving it slightly right and left, lifting your hips, and pulling your knees apart, all the while vocalizing Molly down the birth canal. A work of art – wrought in nature’s design and God’s purpose. It took my strong grip on your shoulder, and Eric and Linda together nearly yelling your name to bring you back to the present time. Slowly, Linda urged; so as to keep you intact, slowly Jill.

Molly descended the last bit, fully to crowning, and was born up to her neck with one contraction. I barely had time to spin around and get the camera ready. Eric was poised to catch, and your body at last gave you a short break before the final wave crashed over your body and out of your womb. Molly rotated slightly, her shoulder slipped free, and she slid into Eric’s waiting hands. Immediately both you and Eric began laughing, joy immeasurable. She was Captivating. She was Beloved!

Welcome Molly Rebekah!
7lbs 8ozs 19.25 inches long
Born September 1st at 2:20am

8.06.2007

Loving Me

This is something I wrote awhile ago and thought it high time to remind more women:

"I am a 27 year old mommy to 5 that are 7, 4, 3, 3, and 7 months. I worried with my first pregnancy that I would never be beautiful again. I worried with my second pregnancy that I was right. I worried with the twins' pregnancy that my husband would believe it too. And I knew with my last pregnancy that I was perpetuating a lie. My breasts sag because they nourish my chidren. My belly is embossed with ribbons of silver because my babes have graced me with riches, and my hips are padded so that my monkeys can travel there. My hands are calloused from kneading my husband's aching shoulders and my feet are swollen from pacing the halls when my little ones are ill. My body screams WOMAN! I am not a pin-up, and am thankful for that. For those women have believed the lie themselves - or they have not found the joys I have. Either way, I am thankful for my WOMANLY body, and would not trade it for a full and perky rack, or a tight and silver-free 6-pack any day."

So, I want to hear it... Does your body scream woman? If so, post your womanly roar in comments for all of blogger to hear!

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