Him:"I apologize for sending you out. I hope I didn't offend you. I'm sure you understan-"
Me:"... Of course I understand! I mean, what better way to coerce a woman into a major surgery that she neither needs nor wants than to remove her only support and full disclosure of information from the room (chuckle - ended with dagger-eyes.. walk away)."
Doula Rule #1 - I work for YOU. Not the hospital, and they know that. We are not in the business of making hostile situations, but we are there to advocate for your rights, wishes, and informed consent. If your doctor insists on your doula leaving, he/she either:
- doesn't know what a doula does and thinks we can't be there for major decisions or
- wants to coerce, bully, persuade, encourage, or threaten you into something you either don't want and/or don't need.