tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-47724591287043886782024-03-13T03:23:28.296-05:00Bellies and BabiesThe diary of childbirth educator, doula, mother, and aspiring midwifeNicole Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00221401549139626688noreply@blogger.comBlogger1203125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post-6337963948325457602017-08-25T10:22:00.000-05:002017-08-25T10:22:48.712-05:00Hurricanes and Babies<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
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<b>“To describe my mother would be to write about a hurricane in its perfect power.” - Maya Angelou</b></h4>
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As a doula, I can't think of any better way to describe the great storm that is labor - growing and encompassing, opening and clearing the way for a new life.<br /><br />As Tropical Storm Harvey gears up to shake, rattle, and roll Texas, I thought it might be prudent to get some Pregnancy Hurricane Preparation into my clients hands. <br /><br />If you aren't planning to evacuate for the storm, here's a best odds for staying safe in the storm: </div>
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<li>If your plan had been to labor at home for as long as possible, know that that plan should change and travel should probably be considered earlier in labor. </li>
<li>This website will help people in the Houston area to know which roads are closed for high water. This will enable you to map the best route more efficiently. https://traffic.houstontranstar.org/roadclosures/roadclosures.aspx?typ=hw</li>
<li>Map out where your nearest hospital with L&D, your local ems, and fire departments are, just in case it's needed, and post it on your fridge. </li>
<li>Stock up on snacks and especially water, as water in general, and especially clean water can be scarce. </li>
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<li>Comfortable traveling clothes, including closed toe shoes</li>
<li>Food (nutritious snacks like protein bars, nuts, dried fruit, and granola) and water for 1 week and 1 week supply of medications</li>
<li>Printed medical records, in case you need to go to another hospital</li>
<li>Phone and Chargers</li>
<li>Full tank of gas</li>
<li>Emergency birth supplies, such as clean towels, sharp scissors, infant bulb syringe, medical gloves, two white shoelaces, sheets and sanitary pads</li>
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In case of an emergency, exclusive breastfeeding will provide the best protection for your baby. It doesn't require water, sterilization of any equipment or water, and doesn't require a heat source - lowering risk for baby during emergency. If you cannot breastfeeding, you should try to get single serve, already prepared formula. If you are a mom who relies on pumped milk, learn to express your milk by hand and have a few syringes and/or disposable cups on hand that you can feed your baby with. <br /><br />Additional Resources:<br /><br /><a href="http://www.marchofdimes.com/pregnancy/stayingsafe_disaster.html">http://www.marchofdimes.com/pregnancy/stayingsafe_disaster.html</a><br /><br /><a href="http://www.marchofdimes.com/baby/environment_disaster.html">http://www.marchofdimes.com/baby/environment_disaster.html</a><br /><br /><a href="http://www.nhc.noaa.gov/">http://www.nhc.noaa.gov/</a><br /><br /><a href="http://www.mymidwife.org/Guide-to-Emergency-Childbirth">http://www.mymidwife.org/Guide-to-Emergency-Childbirth</a></div>
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Nicole Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00221401549139626688noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post-10566435020783468272016-11-16T10:26:00.000-06:002016-11-16T10:26:02.641-06:00Reasons to LOVE Being Pregnant and Birthing During the HolidaysI know being pregnant during the holidays can carry it's own set of challenges, and some women downright dislike it... but for those of our doula clients that are pregnant during the holidays, this countdown is for you!<br />
<br />10. <i>Most </i>places you live in the U.S. mean that the weather will be much more tolerable than Summer and 8-9 months.<br /><br />9. People have a better chance of coming to you for Thanksgiving Dinner and Christmas parties - and they bring all the food and clean up. <div>
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8. A great excuse for seconds... and thirds... and fourths..... </div>
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7. Holidays are a great time to practice your happy space for pregnancy, your boundaries, and your thank-you-for-your-unsolicited-advice,-I'm-going-to-ignore-you-now face. </div>
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6. Laboring on a holiday? What a perfect excuse to avoid the awkward family gathering. </div>
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5. Birthing on a holiday? 5 words: You Get All The Leftovers</div>
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4. Little one already here for their first holiday? Practice this phrase in the mirror "Please excuse me, I need to take care of the baby". Fussy, tired, hungry, or 'oops I just woke the baby' is a great time to go to the office, bedroom, etc. to give you some quiet time away from the chaos of family get-togethers, and an excuse to avoid that one person at family gatherings you don't want to see!</div>
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<br />3. You can practice all of your holiday puns. "Stuffing", "Turkey", "Gift", etc... c'mon, give me your best shot!<br /><br />2. You can name your Holiday baby any of the awesome, hippie-like names without fear of being called a hippie! Think about it, Sage, Pumpkin, Cranberry, Yule, Solstice, Samhain, Henny, Mayflower, Fowler, Cornucopia - the possibilities are <i>endless</i>. </div>
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<br />1. Having a November baby means you probably had a ... <i>good</i> Valentine’s Day. Mid-November is 9 months after February 14th. December baby? Full moon or passover were your most likely candidates. </div>
Nicole Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00221401549139626688noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post-27179604452161820992016-11-02T11:30:00.000-05:002016-11-02T11:30:17.450-05:00Coping At All Stages - Immediately Postpartum<i>"For my first, I didn't get to hold him or nurse him until 1 in the morning. I had a bad reaction to the medication. We spent two days in the hospital where I didn't get much help breastfeeding. I was told I had to supplement with formula because of blood sugar. I didn't know about LCs or LLL. I struggled greatly and, at 3 months, stopped breastfeeding. The recovery from a cesarean was very difficult and I had issues doing anything for about a week and a half. </i><br />
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<i>For my second, after I birthed the placenta, I started to hemorrhage. So I was given some herbs and a shot of pitocin in my leg. I was taken out of the birth pool and onto the floor where they massaged my uterus. It finally slowed when my baby was brought to my chest. They cleaned me up, and I started to nurse. The next day the soreness and pain settled in and I couldn't lay down for a couple of months without being in pain. For about 10 weeks I camped in the living room with my rocking chair. I never went out and smiled and said I was fine. I was really horribly depressed. If it wasn't for a visit to my house by an LC, I don't think I would have kept nursing. It took me till 6 months out to crawl out of my depression. I got a part time job. I wish I would have known about ppd and known to work to process this birth, which was more traumatic in some ways than my cesarean. </i></div>
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<i>For my third, 6th hours after giving birth, we went to the chiropractor for adjustments. That night I was up and cooking dinner. No postpartum depression, no baby blues, just awesomeness." ~ Allison</i><br />
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<i>"I had a small tear that they stitched up, I didn't even know the placenta was born. Nursing went fine. The anesthesiologist came in and had me sit up to pull out the epidural. That felt weird. I thought I'd be staying in that room - with all the equipment and stuff. I was pleasantly surprised when they came in with a wheelchair a few hours after M was born and said we were moving rooms. I was also wary of my ability to get up. My butt felt like someone put a cue ball in it and my legs felt like velour. We got up though, and surprisingly I peed. My least favorite thing about postpartum was that I had a nurse, lactation consultant, doctor, nursery nurse, pediatrician, or food delivery person in my room every. single. hour. Literally, day or night, every hour, someone was coming in. I didn't sleep well until I got home." ~ Amili</i><br />
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<i>"After birth I was not prepared for all the blood and the pressing on the uterus and the stitching up. </i><i>I used ibuprofen for awhile after birth and went home about 4 hours after he was born. </i><i>I had one 2nd degree tear and even with it being minor, it wasn't fun for those first weeks. I spent a lot of time preparing for birth but not postpartum recovery, so a lot of it was a shock to me. I was sleep deprived as well and was so grateful for the help of my parents. I did do herbal baths though to help with healing. But yeah, the whole soreness and bleeding and emotional roller coaster, no sleep, and constant breastfeeding was veerrrrryyyy shocking." ~ Chelsea</i><br />
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<i>"It ends up he pooped while I was pushing and they wanted to suction him. When he was back in my arms, he started nursing right away. It hurt. Some observations: no one told me about your legs staying up in stirrups and 30 minutes of strangers staring at your vagina. No one told me about your free postpartum massage; Fundal Massage my ass. No one tells you that birthing your placenta feels like birthing an octopus. No one told me that your tailbone can hurt for a long time after. No one told me that you would feel like your vagina was just in a boxing match with Mike Tyson.... But, also no one told me that I might change my mind about an early discharge and want to stay the full two days so I had 24/7 help. No one told me that I might really need and appreciate the nursery nurse coming in so often to assess his latch (and diagnose a posterior tongue tie a few hours before we left the hospital). Final thoughts, never underestimate the power of sitz baths and boppy pillows to sit on." ~ Liv</i><br />
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<i>Read the rest of <a href="https://mamasmilknochaser.com/2016/05/29/juleps-water-birth-at-home/">Holly's story on her blog</a>, including her <a href="https://mamasmilknochaser.com/2016/07/13/13-ideas-for-a-more-pleasant-postpartum/">postpartum blog</a> post and <a href="https://mamasmilknochaser.com/2016/05/19/a-birthday-candle-cord-burning-ceremony/">her cord burning post</a>~ Holly</i><br />
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<i>"</i><i>We stayed this way with Cole only slipping in to give us a blanket (our request) so we could hold him. Our midwife only slipped in to check his heart rate and his breathing. About 15 minutes later they helped us out of the tub and to the bed. On the way to the bed my placenta fell out. They knew it was coming (we didn't) and caught it in a bowl. They took our food order and did one more once over on baby and I. </i><i>I appreciated that they didn't bother us. My midwife and doula helped me get him latched, my midwife checked my bottom out and helped me get cleaned up, but then they both left the room to make us breakfast and chart. The placenta stayed in the bowl beside us with a chux over it. A little while later, my midwife came in and helped us with the newborn assessments and asked if I was ok taking an after-birth smoothie to help with my contracting (I wasn't bleeding heavy, just a little more than what she wanted to see). We cut the cord and our doula made cubes out of the placenta for smoothies (and brought one to me right then). </i><i>My doula did the dishes, cleaned up the birth pool, and did a load of laundry. </i><i>We just hung out in the bedroom and, after breakfast, nodded off. When we woke, our doula was gone, my sister had arrived and my midwife was packing to leave. My mom came the next day (and my midwife to do the 24 hour assessment), and my postpartum doula came the third. I felt cared for and checked in on." ~ Trinity</i><br />
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<i>"My doctor pushed on my fundus (holy owie) and pulled on my placenta to get it 'unstuck' (owie owie owie). He then gave me pitocin in my IV, cytotec in my bum, and methergine in my thigh. I bled a lot. Things finally settled down and he said I had a tiny tear that didn't need a stitch. The tech started washing me off but I told her I wanted to do that myself. My doula and nurse helped me to the shower and I rinsed off. Postpartum wasn't what I hoped for, they bothered me all the time and told me everything I did was wrong (breastfeeding, sleeping with babies cot right up against my bed and my hand on her, hubbies swaddling technique and diapering technique). We felt we were doing good, but they made us feel inept. That, along with the long line of well meaning visitors.. and we never slept or rested. We requested an early discharge and left 24 hours after baby was born. We did a follow up the day after at the hospital nursery." ~ Kelly</i><br />
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After baby is born, if your hospital does LDRP rooms (Labor, Delivery, Recovery, Postpartum combined), you won't need to worry about moving rooms. Common practice, though, is to have LD rooms and postpartum in another section.<br />
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If your postpartum unit is in another area of the hospital, generally you will recover in your LD room for around 2 hours. During that time, a number of things will be happening.<br />
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If you have a home birth, your midwife will normally stay for about 2-12 hours afterward, depending on your needs and birth experience, and will perform a lot of the following postpartum care practices. If you are at a birth center, generally you will stay there for 4-12 hours, again depending on the time or day, your needs, and your birth experience, before you head home.<br />
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While you are bonding with your baby and getting to know them, generally your provider will bring <br />
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your bottom down to the end of the bed and wait for your placenta. When it's time for your placenta to be born, they may ask you to cough or push to help deliver it and to aid in separating it from your uterus. Usually the provider will give light traction on the cord while you bear down to birth your placenta. Heavy traction or pulling on the cord correlates with an increase of bleeding.<br />
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To minimize bleeding, they will most likely provide fundal pressure (aka massage or pushing on the top of your uterus). This helps your uterus to contract. This is very crampy and painful for some women. Other women, it is minimally crampy and painful, and more annoying. Some women feel it is less painful if they place their hand on top of the nurses' hands while they're doing it. Likewise, some women ask the nurse to show them how to do the massage to check their own uterus.<br />
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Most women in the hospital setting will receive postpartum pitocin or cytotec for the same reason unless they have a prior agreed upon arrangement with their provider. The postpartum pitocin can be administered via IV or through the muscle as a single shot. Postpartum cytotec is administered rectally. Midwives in most states can carry pitocin or cytotec for this same reason.<br />
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Some providers will begin any stitching that needs to be done before the placenta is birthed. Most prefer to start repairs after the placenta is born. If you haven't had an epidural, they will provide lidocaine, a local anesthetic, to the tissue through injection prior to any repairs being done. The stitches that they use are dissolvable. It's important to tell your provider if you have any sharp pain during the repair, although dull pressure is expected. Midwives at home and birth centers can provide lidocaine for repairs as well.<br />
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After repairs are done and your placenta is birthed, the tech will generally clean you off with warm water, soap, and a washcloth, change out your padding, change the sheets of the bed, and, if the bed was broken down for birth, they will put the bed back together. After you are able to move up in the bed and sit up, they will generally give you an ice pack for your bottom and help you change out your clothing/gown before covering you with blankets.<br />
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If you have a home or birth center birth - generally your midwife and/or doula will help you get cleaned up and take a shower or bath, clean up the birth pool and any bed messes, and get you into bed with a pad and soothing compresses.<br />
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<li>If you had an epidural for a vaginal birth, they will turn off the epidural and remove it. </li>
<li>If you had an epidural and don't have a lot of feeling in your legs, they might empty your bladder with a straight catheter (one that doesn't stay in) once more before leaving for postpartum. </li>
<li>If you had an unmedicated birth or have good mobility, they may have you use the restroom and try to empty your bladder before you head to postpartum. Your midwife at a homebirth would like to see you empty your bladder before she leaves as well.</li>
<li>They will offer you something to drink (juice, water, ice) and sometimes a light meal. At home or the birth center, you can eat whatever you'd like. They normally encourage a high protein food and juice for energy. </li>
<li>You will need to have someone (father, partner, doula, other support person) pack up your belongings for changing rooms if you are in the hospital. </li>
<li>Sometime during this time, baby is normally taken to the warmer for any newborn procedures you have agreed to, such as eye erythromycin, vitamin K, and sometimes Hepatitis B. Baby will also be weighed, measured, have a physical assessment, and newborn reflexes checked. If you are at home or the birth center - these all happen in your room and in your presence, oftentimes at the end of your bed so that you and partner can take part in it. </li>
<li>Normally your blood pressure cuff, whether you had an epidural or not, will go off around every 15-30 minutes. Also, you may have a pulse ox on your finger. In home and birth center births, they will check your blood pressure and listen to your respiration before they leave to make sure you are doing well. </li>
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When you arrive at postpartum, normally your postpartum nurse will assess you for her own records (another set of vitals, another fundal massage, etc.) and your babies nursery nurse will do another set of vitals on baby (usually in the warmer, but many women request it be done with baby in their arms). If you're at home or a birth center - your midwife will continue to monitor you intermittently before leaving/sending you home. They will provide a list of things to be looking for, what to expect, and when to call them.</div>
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Around the time that you arrive in your postpartum room, your baby will probably be getting very sleepy. This is usually babies longest nap for the coming weeks. <b>Pro Tip: consider <i>not</i> having any visitors until you have taken advantage of babies first nap and napped yourself at the same time. </b></div>
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If you haven't yet been offered food or to use the restroom, this is usually when they would offer or ask that of you. <b>Pro Tip: since you don't know when you'll birth, consider packing an <i>actual microwaveable meal </i>- otherwise you might get whatever is in the fridge - which is oftentimes cold cut sandwiches. </b>Your nurse should also help you become familiar with any/all of these items that your hospital might have handy: </div>
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<li>Witch Hazel/Tucks pads - these are wonderful to stuff in your pad to help sooth your bottom and bring down swelling/hemorrhoids. </li>
<li>PADS - the <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Maxim-Maternity-Chlorine-Hypoallergenic-Unscented/dp/B001F0R4R6">pads</a> at the hospital are thick, bulky, and leaky and are kept in place with <a href="http://www.carelinemedical.com/products/1538/?gclid=CJCq5eWPlM4CFYlhfgodqe4PQg">strange undergarments</a>. They're free, and you go through a lot of them usually - so that's a bonus... <b>Pro Tip: consider using <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Depend-Underwear-Women-Maximum-28-40/dp/B001R4RWUY">Depends</a> - which are just as absorbent but don't leak nearly as bad - and they keep those soothing cold packs in place better</b>. </li>
<li>COLD PACKS - some hospitals offer ice in a glove, others have the <a href="http://www.zerbee.com/Products/Perineal-Cold-Packs__MDS148055.aspx?cpch=g1&cptoken=B5BE8C3A&gclid=CPeZkLGPlM4CFcVefgod9KEDDQ">perineal cold packs</a>. Just like with other times icing, it's best to do 20 minutes of cold, then a break. Thankfully the perineal cold packs only stay cold for 20 minutes. <b>Pro Tip: have someone make you some <a href="http://www.modernalternativemama.com/2014/04/18/making-postpartum-padsicles-plus-bonus-perineum-healing-spray/">padsicles</a> for when you get home</b></li>
<li>Medicine and Stool Softeners - your nurse will tell you what pain medication options you have on your chart, but your provider should order ibuprofen or other light pain medication for your discomfort. Also, the stool softeners are to help you with your first bowel movements; and labor makes the system reset, which, in turns means a more difficult time with the first bowel movement most of the time. </li>
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<i>"</i><i>By the time it was time to push, I got out and onto the bed and pushed on my back until he was under my pubic bone. Then I got back into the tub and pushed there, alternating between bites of fig and sips of water. He was born after a few more pushes...</i><i>" ~ Chelsea</i></div>
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<i>"My nurse came in and asked to check me. I hopped up on the bed and she said I was 9cm with a lip of cervix. I turned on my side for a contraction and it was miserable. We flipped to the other side and did it on the other side for the next contraction. My doctor came in and checked me and said I was 10 cm and could push whenever I wanted. I wanted to be on all fours but couldn't move. My doctor didn't want me to be in that position either, so I drew my legs back and pushed hard. My contractions had spaced out to about 6 minutes apart and I didn't really feel like I </i>had <i>to push, but I wanted to be done. I pushed and pushed, resting between, with water sips and cold washclothes. It took me 2 hours to feel the urge to push, and another 45 minutes to push him out. 4 billion people came in the room for baby, the doctor, and me. Everyone showed up for the big finale and I took forever to do it. He came out turned to one side and his shoulders didn't come out easy. I tore, but not a lot. I didn't feel it either. When he came out, they unwrapped a cord around his neck, they cut his cord, and took him to the warmer...." ~ Liv</i></div>
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<i>"I got in the tub... One contraction caused me to involuntarily spring forward into a splay-legged position on all fours. (I remained in this position until Julep was nearly born). I could’ve done the splits and still wouldn’t have felt I was open nearly enough. I wanted so badly to stretch my whole pelvis even wider. This compulsion didn’t intend to relieve pain (I wasn’t experiencing any), it was to enhance what already felt good. After my water broke, Julep’s head was in the birth canal. The whole round thing, all of it so suddenly. Cole arrived (ten minutes before Julep would be born). In one moment, I felt Julep kick me from the inside. His whole body, from shoulders to toes, wiggled inside the birth canal right before the contraction that would bring his head out completely. It was a wild, incredible feeling..." ~ <a href="https://mamasmilknochaser.com/2016/05/29/juleps-water-birth-at-home/">Holly</a></i></div>
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<i>"My midwife showed up and asked if I wanted to get in the tub. It had been about 15 minutes or more since my last contraction. I had totally forgotten about the birth pool. Thankfully my husband had set it up while Cole and I were moving back and forth between the bedroom and bathroom. I hopped in the tub during that long break between expansions (because that's what they really were) and again asked if this huge lull was normal. My husband climbed in with me and I intuitively got into a squat, facing him, with my hands on his shoulders. The next expansion rolled over me and I threw down (like throwing up, involuntary and all-body like) with so much intensity that I howled at the ceiling. My husband matched my howl and it made me feel so primal and sensual. I put one hand between my legs and felt my babies head. My husband put his hand on top of mine and our eyes met. I don't remember a real break in the expansion, as my body just opened, then opened more, then opened more. His head came out into our hands, then he </i>spun<i> on our hands and slipped out effortlessly. I sat back and our four hands drew him up to the surface, where we let him float between us. I was still riding this euphoric wave and our howls had turned into moaning, keening, post orgasmic joyful tears. " ~ Trinity</i></div>
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<i>"... I popped up to work through a contraction, right around when we noticed the blood, and I started moaning through a contraction before suddenly yelping as my water popped, then grunting. Cole asked if I was pushing and I said I didn't know. She asked if I felt like I was pooping and I said yes. She asked if I thought it was time to have a baby and I said 'no, I'm only 4cm'. My nurse came in and asked the same series of questions. I was irritated at them, of course it wasn't time for me to have a baby, I was only 4cm. They were so stupid in my mind. With my next one I sank to my knees and started really pushing. Even between pushes though, I would pant 'just pooping, just pooping'. I know that things got chaotic but I was only focusing on pooping, which was so vastly important and satisfying. Next thing I know, my butt felt totally stretched out and I remember thinking 'oh, it's not a piece of crap, it's a baby', and then I was holding her. I was holding my baby. Total time between my 4cm check and my baby in my arms was 50 minutes. My doctor didn't make it, my nurse and I caught my baby, kneeling on the floor beside the bed. Cole and my nurse helped me into the bed. My doctor came in and proclaimed 'now that was interesting', while the nursery staff came in and saw she was a little floppy. They wanted to take her to the warmer to get her to get more pink and to start crying, but my doctor asked them to do the oxygen with her in my arms, so they did. We clamped and cut the cord a short time later and sat around waiting on the placenta. Baby latched on about 40 minutes after birth, but my placenta wouldn't come out. I kept nodding off to sleep between little crampy contractions..." ~ Kelly</i><br />
<i><br /></i>Pushing can be an interesting sensation. Some women say it is like throwing up, in reverse: the involuntary nature of throwing up, that intense pressure moving everything in your core upward... but instead downward. They call that 'throwing down'. Other women say it is like the most intense constipated pressure you will ever feel. Other women say it is an involuntary urge to poop - similar to when you have diarrhea.<br />
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Speaking of burning, many women say that, as baby comes to crowning, they feel burning or heat on their perineum. That is their perineum stretching. Being mindful of this stage can minimize the chances of tearing. When mom's feel the burn or the pressure or the stretching or the fire, support teams can say 'that's good, you're stretching, stretchy bottom, soft bottom, relaxed bottom, push when you need, breath when you can.". Say all this really close to their ear and quietly. The tone reflecting what she wants her bottom to achieve. <b>Pro Tip, <a href="http://wonderfullymadebelliesandbabies.blogspot.com/2011/02/would-you-rather.html">more on minimizing tearing here</a>. </b><br /><br />
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Nicole Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00221401549139626688noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post-47573832583811707012016-10-24T13:02:00.000-05:002016-10-24T13:02:16.693-05:00KNOWHEN Ovulation Predictor - Product ReviewI received a sample of the <a href="https://www.knowhen.com/">KnoWhen Ovulation Predictor </a>from the manufacturers and provided it to a client (who we'll call Staci) for review. She asked to remain anonymous for family members who are very nosy.<br />
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"I received the KnoWhen package and initially thought 'it's so small and compact, it can't be accurate!' I don't know why, but we tend to consider the bigger and flashier the product is, the more reliable it is. This package was small, it could fit in my purse - and that's where it went.<br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjKjDQ4RVHDfYgCy-a5KrjGek1MPRJsi8gSmRzMmDBCDA-tSkxdt3zpQKXF8CfCUOe-MdDGbXlO_f72VE_u_nr7CaExu1izlGK2VnnYzQBdNl_1_nZ11aHQvoGWE2vB3KarALr3zZQlMjM/s1600/51CyzQjGpeL.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjKjDQ4RVHDfYgCy-a5KrjGek1MPRJsi8gSmRzMmDBCDA-tSkxdt3zpQKXF8CfCUOe-MdDGbXlO_f72VE_u_nr7CaExu1izlGK2VnnYzQBdNl_1_nZ11aHQvoGWE2vB3KarALr3zZQlMjM/s320/51CyzQjGpeL.jpg" width="213" /></a>That weekend, my partner and I went to a hotel out of town for a friend's wedding. I was excited to <br />
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I attempted to download their easy-to-use Fertility Monitor App, but my phone refused. I don't know if it was the hotel's WiFi, their system, or my phone - but I couldn't do it. Oh well, out came the handy notepad I kept in my purse for basal body temperature tracking (NFP).<br />
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That night, we made love. We crossed my legs and hoped it took. I fell asleep with visions of little tadpoles in my babybox prancing through my mind.<br />
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Then I drew up a good amount of non-bubbly saliva, not too much, and put it in the glass top cup do-hickey for KnoWhen. I got up and got my shower, got ready for the day, and went down for breakfast. When I came back up, my saliva was dry. I put the cap on and looked at my loogie. According to the ferning I saw, I was <i>very </i>fertile... VERY FERTILE! I did a little happy jig, rinsed off my spit, dried the lens, and put it back in my purse.<br />
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This was so easy to use that it was rather fun. I think I'm hooked on it. Between mucous, spit, and temperature - I think I'm becoming quite the expert on my omelette shop. I can't wait to see if KnoWhen was a part of my conception story!"<br />
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<i>"</i><i>Around the time that my contractions were about 3 minutes apart and were lasting for 90 seconds, I started to feel nauseous with each one. I would start to shiver, and that's when I knew another one was coming. My doula would see me throw off my sheet, stand up on my toes and shiver. In response, she would rest her hands on my hips and say 'sink into it, let the wave lift you up and over the top. All you have to do is go limp and breath.'. I threw up into my husband's hands. I still feel bad about that one. The pressure in my butt was huge. I felt like I was constipated and started to dread the next one. I started shaking my head 'no' when I felt them come on. My husband looked me in the eye and said 'yeeeessss baby, yeeeessss.' I nodded and started 'yeahing' my way through them. I think if I stayed in that negativity I wouldn't have made it. Things were really intense, but doable until transition. Transition was the hardest part. It only took an hour and half though. I kept asking how long it had been and how much longer. My doula and husband kept replying 'just long enough and only as much time as you need..' I know I was checked a few times but can't remember how far open I was...</i><i>" ~ Liv</i></div>
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<i>"Midwife arrived an hour and twenty minutes before J was born. Photographer arrived (forty minutes before J was born. She was startled to see me upon entering because the lights were dimmed and I was crawling around on the living room floor wrapped in TDD’s oversized, dark navy bathrobe like a drunken bum.... A contraction would move through me and I’d think, Wow! This is so interesting! " ~ <a href="https://mamasmilknochaser.com/2016/05/29/juleps-water-birth-at-home/">Holly</a></i></div>
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<i>"</i><i> </i><i>I had had enough of all fours and just wanted to go back to the toilet. We got back there and, as soon as I sat down, my water popped with a huge splash. </i><i>I remember my doula checking her phone often and it irritating me. I thought she was checking the time and I thought, 'if they tell me what time it is or how long I've been doing this I swear I'll deck them.' I learned later she was worried my midwife wouldn't make it and was updating her. With my next contraction, </i><i>I was sitting on the toilet and moaning like I was having the hugest orgasm ever. My husband took that cue to kiss me after every contraction and rub my breasts and brush my hair with his fingertips. My doula was giving me this counterpressure throughout, but I acutely remember thinking 'my god, she's got her fist in my butthole'. She didn't really, but she was giving me counterpressure on my lower sacrum and the baby was sitting in my bum, making it feel like one giant pressure. With my husband making out with my top half and my doula pressing on my bottom half, it was erotic and sensual but not sexual. The contractions were strong, but the pressure was stronger. Every contraction felt like an expansion and I needed to make a huge amount of space by opening my legs and mouth and butt. </i><i>I pooped again, then rested, no contractions, for a long time. I kept asking if this was normal. Cole said yes, that it's usually the calm before the baby and then text updated our midwife for the last time." ~ Trinity</i></div>
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<i>"</i><i> I started shaking and throwing up with every contraction. My butt and hips hurt and I was miserable. I opted for some IV pain medicine, which did nothing but make me feel drunk. My doula grabbed my attention during one of my contractions and said 'you're almost done. you are doing this.' When that contraction was done, she would say, 'you never have to do that one again.' That became my mantra. </i><i>I didn't really have a moment where I was like 'I can't do this' probably because of the Demerol. I did notice, though, that I wasn't getting as much of a break. My hubby noticed I had a bunch of blood when I stood up for one of the contractions. He asked if that was normal. My doula said, 'it's even more than 'oh that's normal', that's 'ooh, exciting''. All of this happened in about 40 minutes that passed since they checked me and said I was 4cm..." ~ Kelly</i></div>
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<li><b>Stay Positive - </b>If your mantra becomes 'oh no' or 'not another' or other negative words, having someone change your head shakes to head nods, your "no"s to "let goooo"s and your "that was BAD" to "that was PROGRESS" can help refocus your energy.</li>
<li><b>Cocoon In - </b>If you're intimate partner is there, having them come in close and speak affirmations to you, touch you purposefully (no petting, patting, or tapping), and cheer you on gently and quietly can help quiet any fears in your mind. </li>
<li><b>Keep The Goal In Mind - </b>If your goal was an unmedicated birth, you are almost there. This stage is usually the shortest and means you can almost see the checkered flag. If your goal was an unmedicated birth, your mini goals are acceptance and surrender. If you haven't done either of those, work on that - communicate your needs to your team so that they can help you too. </li>
<li><b>Stay Present - </b>Many women worry about 'if it's this big now, how much bigger will it be an hour from now' or 'I can't do this much longer' or other such projection into the future. Don't worry about the future - stay present and do what you can right in this moment. </li>
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Nicole Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00221401549139626688noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post-60626913126069342832016-10-17T12:59:00.000-05:002016-10-17T12:59:10.154-05:00Lost on Hope Island: The Amazing Tale of the Little Goat Midwives (Lost on Hope Island Trilogy Book 1) Patricia Harman has written a <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Lost-Hope-Island-Amazing-Midwives/dp/0997394102/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1476381552&sr=8-1&keywords=lost+on+hope+island">children's book</a>!<br />
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This sweet story is about a young girl and her younger brother and their adventures after being shipwrecked. It's a story of survival, hope, perseverance, and family. The story has information on survival skills training (which was neat since we are doing that in school this year), and was an enjoyable read for the entire family. I look forward to seeing the rest of the series.<br />
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I had my children read it as well and I personally feel that their reviews are more important than mine:<br />
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Bri (16): There were a few grammatical errors in it, going from past tense to current. But the storyline is great. I can see kids my siblings ages loving this book. I felt hopeful that the children will be ok and that they are learning to live in community with the goats and other living things on the island. The survival skills they demonstrated were very real to life and applicable - that was a nice touch.<br />
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Kairi (13): I couldn't read some of it - it was too sad. But I loved how smart the girl and boy are. Hope is the central theme of this book and I loved that, at the end of the book, you feel hopeful. I need to read the next one now. Good adventure.<br />
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Charis (12): I wanted more information on the story - maybe we'll learn about it in the next books.. like what happened to the parents? What happened to the owners of the homestead? Where did all that stuff come from? I can't say too much because you have to read it. The goats were funny. They have sad parts and happy ones. I wish there were less sad ones though.<br />
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Jocelyn (12): This was really cool. They talked about some of the things we did in school on how to survive a bad situation. I liked how resourceful the older child was, and that she still needed her little brother's help too. He was helpful even though he was small. They fought like real kids. I don't know how I would do in that same situation - but I know I would be ok.<br />
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Xander (10): I didn't like it making me cry. I wanted everyone to be ok. I did like the adventure. It was scary sometimes. The goats were funny. I'm worried about the kids.<br />
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There was only one small section where the author flipped tense, but otherwise it was a smooth, easy, enjoyable read. I can't wait to read the rest of the series!Nicole Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00221401549139626688noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post-18493159898679827012016-10-12T11:00:00.000-05:002016-10-12T11:00:14.293-05:00Coping At All Stages - Active Labor<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<i>"For my first, I received an epidural around 4cm and no one told me the risks associated with it. I continued to labor, but could rest because of the epidural. I got to 5cm, but didn't got past 5cm on the clock that they expected. At 7pm they recommended a cesarean, which I declined. At 8 pm they said the baby was in distress and i needed a cesarean for his life. At 9:16, he was born by cesarean. </i><br />
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<i>For my second, by 10:30am I was in active labor My midwife had to work my cervix through some scar tissue, but I went from 4-6 within moments. My doula did a lot of work with me but I wasn't prepared for the intensity of active labor because I didn't do childbirth class. She helped me through a lot of mental blocks.</i></div>
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<i>"When the pressure got big enough and the discomfort got big enough that I needed help, I called Cole. She met me at our house and I worked through things in the shower. My contractions got closer and closer throughout the day, but it was slow going. I ate breakfast with my husband, lunch with Cole and my husband, and we got dinner on the way to the hospital. It was always very manageable. They were big and demanded my attention, but as long as I could mentally check out and just roll with it, I was good. We got to the hospital and checked in. Cole says my contractions were about 4 minutes apart at this time and big. My first nurse was awesome. She turned down the lights and left us alone except for an initial cervical check to tell me I was 6-7cm. I was given a hep-lock and they put me on the monitors. The monitors were really uncomfortable. My nurse had to leave though and my second nurse was rude. She flipped on all the lights and wouldn't leave my room. This change in staff happened around 10pm. She kept barking orders at me and making me feel like I was managing all wrong. I finally went to the shower to get away from her. This worked until sometime in the middle of the night. At that point, she told me I had to get out. When I got back in the room, I was so tired and annoyed. She asked me if I wanted my epidural. It really sounded good. I asked her to check my cervix. I was 7cm...." ~ Amili</i><br />
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<i>"I went out for Mexican food and all the patrons were giving me concerned glances because, by that time, they were more like 4 minutes apart and I couldn't talk through them. Then I knew I was in 'real' labor. I called my midwife and she said to make my way to the birth center. I started walking around the birth center for what felt like 20 minutes but it was more like 2 hours, pausing periodically for black cohosh, which tasted like dirt. When a contraction would come, I would squat down and sway my hips while either my partner or my doula would hold under my arms..." ~ Chelsea</i></div>
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<i>"We went to the chiropractor at 10am for my appointment and my chiropractor pointed out to me how my backache was making my belly hard. I was in labor. After my adjustment, we went to our local breakfast place and had brunch. Half way through our meal I took a huge gulp of OJ and, for one confusing moment, thought the juice dribbled down between my legs. But my water had broke. We finished eating as quick as possible and I hobbled out to the car. Thankfully I was wearing a black skirt and the only ones who knew was my husband and I. I decided I wanted to be in the hospital and we called Cole to us. She met us at the hospital, where they had changed from backache to BACKACHE. I was 5 cm at check in. She recommended some belly shifty thingy and all fours. My back felt immediately better and I felt like I was on top of things. Contractions were now about 3-6 minutes apart - they would come in sets of three close, then one further away, then three closer together again. I was really getting into a rhythm and only really felt how tired I was. It was painful but manageable. We did this for about 8 hours." ~ Liv</i></div>
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<i>"I was managing my contractions with the vibrator. I texted my birth team that my contractions were lasting a minute every 7-12 minutes. An hour later, My contractions were 6-10 minutes apart, lasting almost a minute. I was flipping through a breastfeeding book and sitting on the birth ball TDD started timing my contractions but he was in charge of various duties so only managed to record a few. The first was fifty-two seconds; three-ish minutes between this one and the next few. We were unable to time them religiously so he told my midwife they were about a minute long, every three minutes TDD and I cracked jokes between contractions, but the ache in my sacrum and hips was constant. I tried not to worry about it. I told TDD I thought I was probably still dilated at a two, so he reiterated to my doula that it was okay if she wanted to go home and shower before heading over..." ~ <a href="https://mamasmilknochaser.com/2016/05/29/juleps-water-birth-at-home/">Holly</a></i></div>
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<i>"Around 8am, the cervical tickles were starting to feel like licking a battery with my cervix. I remember Cole telling me this can be a good sign for dilation. I got up to use the restroom and noticed they were coming pretty close still, but felt longer and definitely stronger. I didn't really need help, but I wanted my people. So I called my doula to come to me, asked my midwife to start making her way over, and woke my husband up. I preferred laboring on all fours in the bedroom, but kept going back to sit on the toilet every few contractions. They stayed 'easy' and I only really needed to breath hard through them and shake my head to stay loose. I could talk through them, but it was like asking someone to talk during an orgasm - you can, but it's so distracting. Cole turned off all the lights and made it nice and dark by drawing the shades. The only noise I wanted was affirmations and the only thing I wanted was presence." ~ Trinity</i></div>
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<i>"Things picked up slowly and steadily and sure enough, when I really </i>wanted <i>to rest I couldn't because my contractions demanded that I was up and moving, rocking and swaying. My contractions went from 10 min apart to 7 min apart to 5 min apart over about 15 hours. I would only really consider them INTENSE intense for the last 5 hours of that, when they went from 7 minutes apart to 5 minutes apart. When they got about 7 minutes apart I couldn't just change position to make them better, I had to make noise. My doula showed up when they were about 6 minutes apart and worked with me to make positive noises. When they were 5 minutes apart for a good hour I decided to go in to the hospital. I just wanted to sleep but lying down wasn't working. I hated that position the most. My contractions were 3 minutes apart by the time we got to the hospital. They checked my cervix and I was 4cm. I was frustrated." ~ Kelly</i></div>
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Active labor is when your labor/contractions actively require your help. This is usually when your contractions are closer, longer, and stronger than they had been prior... Again, ignoring your labor as long as possible will help it go smoother and feel shorter/more manageable. When you arrive at active labor, it is difficult or impossible for most women to ignore the sensations of labor, and contractions are easier to cope with when you adjust your body to the sensations.<br />
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Textbook active labor is 5-6 cm on through 7-8cm and when your contractions are between 7 - 4 minutes apart, and lasting between 45 seconds and a minute each. <b>Pro Tip: again, try not to watch the contraction app all the time. </b></div>
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I'll reiterate, our bodies don't necessarily follow the textbooks and it's important to listen to what sensations you are feeling, how your body is coping, what positions you prefer, and what else your body is telling us <a href="http://boldturquoise.com/emotional-sign-posts-in-labor-the-alternative-to-vaginal-exams-day-19-of-bellies-birth-and-babies/">emotionally, mentally</a>, and physically. If your water hasn't broken yet, there is a good chance it will break sometime during active labor. <b>Pro Tip: keep note of your water when it breaks. What did it look like, smell like, color, big gush or little trickle, etc... </b></div>
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You might also see bloody show if you haven't yet. If your water already broke, it will continue to leak in small trickles, normally with contractions. You might notice that you begin to feel contractions in your hips, back, or butt. Pressure in your vagina or butt is normal the more open your cervix gets and the lower your baby moves. <b>Pro Tip: if you aren't sure if you'll like massage or counterpressure - give it a try. If they are pushing or massaging in the wrong place, tell them where you need it by pointing. Tell your birth team how hard you want it by saying 'more' or 'less' or 'stop'. </b></div>
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Contractions don't normally feel any 'bigger' after you get to around 7cm, they just continue to get closer and longer, with more constipated pressure. It's not uncommon to lose your appetite around active labor. Remember to drink water often, though, and use the restroom often. <b>Pro Tip: Keeping your bladder empty will ensure baby can move down and that your uterus doesn't get over stimulated. </b></div>
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Movement, falling into a relaxing rhythm and ritual, will help make time go faster and labor go smoother. Find positions that work for you and ambiance that allows you minimal distractions. Whatever you would do to make a romantic or sleep inducing atmosphere is the perfect atmosphere for active labor. <b>Pro Tip: do what you need to to <a href="http://wonderfullymadebelliesandbabies.blogspot.com/2014/02/acceptance-and-surrender.html">let your body surrender</a> to the sensations. If someone is causing you to feel inhibited, they should leave. If you want to moo, then moo. If you want to get on all fours, do it. </b></div>
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Example of <a href="http://www.dancingstarbirth.ca/Handouts/Relaxation_Rhythm_andRitual.pdf">ritual</a>: </div>
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Contraction, I spread my legs and sway my hips while leaning on the bed. Doula pushes on my hips. Husband moans low with me to give me a vocal goal. At the end of the contraction, he reminds me to take a deep breath and as I finish blowing it out, he kisses me. Mom offers me a sip of water. I stand up and stretch. Contraction, I spread my legs and sway my hips while leaning on the bed. Doula pushes on my hips. Husband moans low with me to give me a vocal goal. At the end of the contraction, he reminds me to take a deep breath and as I finish blowing out, he kisses me. Mom offers me a sip of water. I stand up and stretch. At the end of each hour I go sit on the toilet for 3 contractions.</blockquote>
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Speaking of positions, if you change a position and don't like it, (<b>pro tip</b>) <b>give it 3 contractions before abandoning it.</b> It will take your body that long to adjust to the new position. Resist the urge to raise up on your heels or clench your butt/pelvic floor/thighs and, instead, focus all of your attention on <a href="http://wonderfullymadebelliesandbabies.blogspot.com/2014/11/let-it-go.html">letting go</a> of all tension in your body. </div>
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Speaking of romantic - <a href="http://wonderfullymadebelliesandbabies.blogspot.com/2014/02/pregnancy-birth-and-barry-white.html">romantic things</a> like kissing, nipple stimulation, nuzzling the neck, making out, even orgasm - these are great things for any time during labor but especially during active labor. Be mindful of your tone - <a href="http://wonderfullymadebelliesandbabies.blogspot.com/2008/08/say-aaaahhhh.html">vocalization is a powerful tool</a>. It's ok, in fact it's downright good, to make noise. </div>
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<li>Check your cervix to make sure that it is opening and your cervix is making change. <b>Pro tip: cervical checks in labor can be VERY uncomfortable - a trick is to act like you're blowing their fingers out while they check you. This allows your cervix to come lower, making the exam easier on you and the person checking.</b></li>
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<i>"For my first I was set for an induction at 7am. I woke at 2:30am with period like cramps. I didn't know what labor would feel like, my doctor didn't give me any information and I didn't know about childbirth classes. Around 4am, I figured out I was having mild contractions. We went in at 7am and I told my doctor this. I still got Pitocin, though, and he broke my water and away we went. They were fast, intense and back to back. </i><br />
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<i>"I woke to a pop and a gush - so there was no mistaking that I was going to be in labor - although, from what I hear, only about 10% of women's labors start with the water breaking. When my contractions started about 30 minutes later, I was in the shower rinsing off and my husband was putting the laundry in the washer. They started out subtlety, like a nearly continuous menstrual cramp. It was all under my belly button and all dull and achy. Within a few hours, the continuous dull menstrual cramp had spaced out to full belly hugs that wrapped around from the sides, the top, and the bottom, lots of water balloon-like pressure the full size of my uterus; like this giant water balloon being blown up inside, at the same time that this flat wide band wrapped around the water balloon and tried to pop it from pressure alone. The dull menstrual cramp of my lower belly was still there. As the day went on, the menstrual cramps got bigger, and the pressure got stronger...." ~ Amili</i><br />
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<i>"My contractions were confusing - I think everyone else knew I was in labor before I did. I woke up about 4am to a backache. It would start as a pulling on my lower back that would intensify, last for awhile, then go away. I woke repeatedly in the night to this sensation and I thought it was just a muscle strain. After I got up, my husband asked how I slept and I told him. He noticed I said 'about every 15 minutes I woke with a nagging backache; so no, I slept like crap'. He kept that observation to himself, which I'm happy for. The backache waves got closer and closer - until about every 7 minutes apart, before he said 'Do you think this is labor'? Until then I had no idea. I thought I needed a massage or a chiropractor. Luckily I had a chiro appointment for that morning..." ~ Liv</i></div>
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<i>"With my first pregnancy, I never had cramps or Braxton Hicks. I felt my insides twist up all of tha sudden. Then ten minutes, again. I knew right away. For my second, I'd been feeling crampy since the morning. I didn't know if it was worthy of mention since I'd been crampy for a month. My mom picked up my three year old for her usual weekly babysitting gig. As soon as he was gone the cramps became what I'd most certainly call contractions. Purposeful, dynamic, big, moving. I felt my uterus lifting up like a skirt with each one. I felt relaxed knowing this was probably "it", and suddenly very feminine too..." ~ <a href="https://mamasmilknochaser.com/2016/05/29/juleps-water-birth-at-home/">Holly</a></i></div>
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<i>"I had a midwife appointment at my house at 38 weeks and I asked her to check my cervix. This was around 4pm. We went out to dinner and called it an early night; going to bed at 9:30. I was glad because I woke at midnight. I had contractions that felt like cervical tickles. They would come for about 20 second every 3 minutes. I woke my husband after a few hours of this. At that time I got up to go to the bathroom (diarrhea) and saw I had pink discharge and my mucous plug in my panties. I called my midwife because they were so close so soon. She said to wait until they felt more intense OR got longer OR they spaced out to match the intensity and length. I called my doula hoping she'd say it was going to be a fast birth. She said 'it might be or it could be [midwife] touching your cervix' and then told me the same thing my midwife did. So I put on a pad and went back to bed. I woke intermittently, never fully rousing, and slept for a good part of the night." ~ Trinity</i></div>
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<i>"I started having mild cramps after a doctors appointment. He said to go on a walk. My doula mentioned eating dinner and heading home to settle in early for the night. I went on the walk. We went to dinner, then I walked more. I didn't want the cramps to stop and they only stopped or spaced out when I stopped moving. So I kept moving. I checked in with my doula and said they were getting stronger, but were still short and only picked up in frequency when I walked. She again suggested I go to sleep. I really didn't want them to stop though, so I kept walking. About midnight I was thoroughly exhausted and had to go to bed. So I got a shower and we tucked in for the night. I woke up to nothing the next day. That evening, we repeated the events of the prior evening and night. Again, I tuckered myself out and went to bed only to wake up to nothing. The third night, I didn't go walking, but instead just hung out at home and went to bed early. Around 2am I woke to a different contraction. I can't explain it but it was more... encompassing...." ~ Kelly</i></div>
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Early labor is a time when your body is working, but you <i>usually</i> don't need to actively adjust your activities to accommodate the sensations. A textbook early labor would last around 10 hours and start with contractions far apart (10 minutes or further apart), lasting for a short time (30-45 seconds each), and be crampy, light, and not very intense. Over time, these contractions would get CLOSER, LONGER, and STRONGER (all three). </div>
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<li><b>Don't pay attention too soon</b> - if you think you're in labor, let your team know, but then try to ignore the sensations and do what you would normally do during that time of day or night. If you'd normally be sleeping - SLEEP. You never know how long your labor will be and there will come a time you will probably want to sleep and can't. If you had plans for lunch, keep them - it's probably a good distraction, there will come a time when your labor won't let you be distracted from the work your body is doing. </li>
<li><b>Don't get hung up on timing contractions </b>- try timing them in sets of 3-5 contractions, update your birth team, then put the app (or paper and pencil) away. When your labor sensations change (more intense, markedly closer, or markedly longer) time another set and send them to your birth team. </li>
<li><b>Don't try to walk your baby out during early labor</b> - it rarely works and usually only serves to exhaust mama. Then when she really wants to sit or lie down, active labor kicks in and she can't sit or lie down. Walking your baby out is best reserved for active labor. </li>
<li><b>Eat and Drink</b> - again, you have no way of knowing how long it will take. Eat when you're hungry or during your regular meal times. Drink water often. Pee often. </li>
<li><b>Greet labor with patience</b> - you have been waiting for this moment for around 9 months. Remember it <i>might </i>be fast, but will <i>probably </i>take time and patience. Clocks have no place in the labor room and the more you can disconnect from worrying about how long it is taking or going to take, the more seamlessly it will evolve. </li>
<li><b>Change things when labor changes</b> - when your labor says 'no more side lying, I don't like that' listen to your body. If you suddenly feel like you need to get rinsed off, take a shower. </li>
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Nicole Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00221401549139626688noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post-30111326675028276602016-07-26T13:46:00.001-05:002016-07-26T13:46:45.871-05:00Doula 2 Doula - Why I Don't Offer In-Home Consults<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I've had potential clients get miffed from time to time over me not offering in-home consultations. Sometimes they've even compared my practice to other local doulas who do offer in-home consultations.<br />
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I get it, it's more convenient to the potential client, especially if they have children. It's more private, intimate, etc...<br />
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But let's talk about the other side of things.<br />
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As a human, and a female human, I would like to think the best of people. But there's no denying that we live in times where we need to be considerate of our safety. If I were to meet a complete stranger in their home without any prior knowledge except an email and <i>possibly </i>a phone call, I have no idea what I am walking into.<br />
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There are a number of stories in the birthing community of doulas who found themselves in scary, and even dangerous, situations because they trusted the strangers that they were going to meet. In one, the woman backed out last minute and said 'go ahead and meet with my husband at our home, I have to go to an appointment.' (this was when the doula was literally on the front step knocking on the door). In another, someone blocked her ability to leave the home when she had to leave for another appointment. In yet another, the home was abandoned and a car pulled up to block her leaving the driveway, but then her husband (who happened to be with her for that day) stepped out of their car and the other vehicle drove off.<br />
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So please know, potential client, it isn't because I think badly of <i>you</i>. It's because I am thinking safety for <i>all </i>when I say 'let's meet here'. And doula to doula - staying safe in our field isn't difficult with simple boundaries and safe business practices.<br />
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<br />Nicole Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00221401549139626688noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post-61622273892562871142016-04-05T11:00:00.000-05:002016-04-07T03:44:51.003-05:00The Empowering Cesarean<blockquote class="tr_bq">
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Empowerment - making one stronger and more confident, especially in controlling their life and claiming their rights.</blockquote>
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Let's get one thing straight from the start - no<i>one</i> can empower another person when it comes to the humanistic experience of empowerment. Empowerment is, by definition, one finding ones own strength. So, <i>I</i> cannot empower <i>you</i>... but, <i>you making a choice</i> that feels good and resonates within you can be empowering to you. It is your power of making that choice that feels good. </div>
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Women can have very empowering births in whatever way that they birth. My years as a birth worker have taught me that truth. The number one deciding factor that makes or breaks the case for a woman's fulfillment of a birth experience and decreases her chances of seeing it as a trauma is <i>choice</i>. When a woman is provided with choices, and is given the space to be a partner in her healthcare and birth planning, she is able to look forward to her birthing time with joy and not fear, fulfillment and not trauma.<br />
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If you find yourself planning for an upcoming cesarean, here are some options that are specific to <i>you</i>:<br />
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In addition, you can talk with your provider about using a <a href="http://www.ecolab.com/product/labor-and-delivery/">clear drape</a> or a <a href="http://nurseslabs.com/nurses-invent-drape-allowing-c-section-moms-immediate-contact-with-baby/">drape with a window</a> in it, see if your hospital offers the <a href="https://www.mhealth.org/blog/2015/may-2015/q-a-new-tap-block-technique-reduces-pain-and-side-effects-for-mothers-after-c-section">TAP block for post-operative pain management</a>, and talk with them about having a photographer in the OR with you to document those first moments.<br />
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Knowing your options, and finding a provider who will have an open dialog about these options, helps to ensure a happy and healthy mom in <i>all</i> birth experiences. </div>
Nicole Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00221401549139626688noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post-50186631598298861942016-03-30T15:55:00.000-05:002016-03-30T15:55:55.049-05:00Continuing EducationTo her faithful readers, friends, and clients -<br />
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Hi there, this is a letter from a friend of Cole's. She was my doula a number of years ago and she is now on her way to becoming a midwife. As she continues this journey, she has a number of opportunities to continue her education and keep her skills up to date. There are two opportunities that she would like to be able to take advantage of in 2016, but I also know it is virtually impossible with the cost of midwifery training. And that's why I'm writing this letter.<br />
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Cole has said, in conversation, that she would love to go to the <a href="http://atmconference.org/">Association of Texas Midwives Conference</a> this year. This conference will be an evening and two full days of lectures and hands-on learning for the midwife and midwife student, specific to the state of Texas. The dates are May 5, 6, and 7, 2016. The total cost for the Conference is <b>$420</b> for a double occupancy room.<br />
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The other continuing education opportunity that she has is the <a href="http://midwiferyworkshops.org/learn-to-be-a-midwife-assistant-2/">Farm Midwife Assistant Workshop</a>. The Midwife Assistant workshop that she would like to attend is either August workshop dates: Aug. 7-13 or Aug. 28-Sept. 3. The 6-day workshop is very intensive and integrative. This workshop will fulfill many of the requirements of her midwifery module training through Via Vita School of Midwifery. The total cost for the workshop is <b>$1,345</b>. This includes her meals and her materials. She already has the book and a place to stay.<br />
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If you think that you can help fund her in <i>any way</i>, simply click on the PayPal button on the side bar that says "Want to Help A Midwife Apprentice?" with the amount you would like to donate and a note in the donation 'for the ATM conference' or 'Assistant Workshop'. If she doesn't raise the entire amount for the ones denoted, she'll refund it.<br />
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So, if you've ever wanted to help give back to your community, this is a tangible way to do so. To see more about her, or to read about her vision as a birth worker, check out her website, http://www.houstondoulas.org/ .<br />
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Sincerely,<br />
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A. GentryNicole Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00221401549139626688noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post-80453254963087666872016-01-21T08:00:00.000-06:002016-07-26T11:09:32.428-05:00Judgmental DoulasRecently I've been noticing a theme in the doula community. The majority of doula websites state they provide "unbiased and judgment-free" doula support. Now that sounds marvelous, and I've never batted an eyelash at it.. until a recent discussion got me thinking...<br />
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I would love a doula who's unbiased, but I sure hope my doula has judgment. </div>
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I'm going to start by saying that I bet 99.9% of the doulas who have this on their website agree with everything in this post, and never meant anything by their statement. But let's break it down (because we all know I love definitions and semantics). </div>
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There are different types of judgement. There's good judgement and bad judgement. Positive judgement and negative judgement. </div>
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Here's a little secret: <i>No doula is non-judgmental</i>. And I'd hope you'd want a judgmental doula too. </div>
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I'd hope you'd want a doula who makes choices for our own business practices that show discernment, wisdom, prudence, and sense. I'd hope you'd want a doula who makes choices in the <b>way that we serve </b>the women we've been entrusted to attend that show discernment, wisdom, prudence, and sense.<br />
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I equally hope you wouldn't want a doula who was a Wesley - (think Princess Bride), one who simply said yes to everything, because then you'd miss out on the educational portion of doula work - the options and choices and personal experiences and<i> head space </i>of doula work. Doulas should give non-biased resources and education to their clients so that they feel good and positive about their choices, whether they go 'according to plan' or not, and no matter what those choices are. As I have said time and time again, <i style="font-weight: bold;">how can we hope to make mothers out of women when we treat them like children</i>? </div>
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It would do us well to remember the difference between good and bad judgement, and <b>bias;</b> I hope none of us provide biased support, but I hope we <b>all</b> show good judgement. So let's be doulas who use wisdom, prudence, sense, logic, reason, astuteness, and perception to benefit our clients through education, resources, support, and community. </div>
Nicole Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00221401549139626688noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post-21514198322078567322016-01-07T08:00:00.000-06:002016-01-07T08:00:20.086-06:00Aromatherapy and Herbal Remedies - Book Review<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Herbal treatments and aromatherapy are valuable, time-proven, natural approaches to a healthy and more comfortable pregnancy and birth as well as a successful breastfeeding experience. Herbalist, instructor, and midwife Demetria Clark explains everything a woman needs to know about using herbs and essential oils during this important time of life.</blockquote>
Demetria Clark has written a beautiful and educational resource; <b><i>Aromatherapy and Herbal Remedies</i></b> is both insightful and useful. When I first began reading it, I had the bias that it would be something of a resource for myself, as a birth worker, but difficult to encourage my clients to read. I was wrong.<br />
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I have already recommended this book to three clients and will continue to do so as the wealth of information and read-friendliness of <i style="font-weight: bold;">Aromatherapy and Herbal Remedies</i> is sure to make this a regular on bookshelves across America. Her book is broken down into aromatherapy for pregnancy, labor and birth, and breastfeeding, and remedies for pregnancy, labor and birth, and postpartum/breastfeeding. She also includes an introduction to herbs, aromatherapy, and information on how to grow, harvest, and prepare your own ingredients.<br />
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She has a concise list of herbs and essential oils, as well as their uses and contraindications. Additionally, she provides a substantial section on recipes for everything from teas to poultices, and diffusing blends to massage oils/salves. I'm excited to refer to this book time and time again and have no doubt it will become a staple on many birth workers book shelves.Nicole Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00221401549139626688noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post-16088417630112472442015-12-29T12:11:00.000-06:002015-12-29T12:11:00.149-06:00<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<br />Nicole Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00221401549139626688noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post-66342707698664888702015-12-21T10:00:00.000-06:002016-01-25T18:01:34.783-06:00The Empowering Epidural<blockquote class="tr_bq">
Empowerment - making one stronger and more confident, especially in controlling their life and claiming their rights.</blockquote>
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Let's get one thing straight from the start - no<i>one</i> can empower another person when it comes to the humanistic experience of empowerment. Empowerment is, by definition, one finding ones own strength. So, <i>I</i> cannot empower <i>you</i>... but, <i>you making a choice</i> that feels good and resonates within you can be empowering to you. It is your power of making that choice that feels good. </div>
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I am a huge advocate of low intervention, no pain medication birth. In healthy and low risk birth, less intervention (medications, tools, equipment, etc..) means less <a href="http://samples.sainsburysebooks.co.uk/9781444355635_sample_416795.pdf">inherent risk</a>. But just because I believe in that truth does not mean that it is going to be true for every birthing journey. Not every birthing journey stays healthy and low risk, not every birthing journey couldn't benefit from weighing the pros and cons of an intervention and erring on the side of the intervention. So, that is where we start. </div>
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I always start with the nitty gritty. Epidurals, like all interventions, should be used as tools to achieve a desired outcome. In prenatal appointments, I provide women with a sheet that details the risks involved with getting an epidural. In childbirth classes, we role play getting an epidural and all that comes with it. Each time, I tell women 'this is not to scare you, this is to give you information about a procedure that you might decide you want, or your birthing journey might require you to get'. </div>
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B*E*S*T Doula Service has an epidural agreement very like my own that I give to clients. <a href="http://www.bestdoulas.com/epidural.pdf">You can see it here</a>. I love that they outline what <i>will</i> be required if you choose an epidural vs what <i>might </i>happen with the epidural. This is very important information to share with clients because it takes the 'I didn't know' and the 'if I'd only known' out of the experience. I cover with them: </div>
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<li>It will require continuous fetal monitoring</li>
<li>It will require at least one IV bag of fluids to be given prior to getting the epidural</li>
<li>It will require a blood pressure cuff to read your BP every 15-30 minutes (depending on the hospital's protocols)</li>
<li>It will require that a pulse oximeter to be placed on your finger for at least 30 minutes during administration</li>
<li>It will require that your partner and doula leave the room for administration (in nearly all area hospitals)</li>
<li>It will require a urinary catheter to be administered (depending on the hospital, some leave it in, others empty your bladder and then remove it. It may increase your risk of UTI or bladder infection, require antibiotics, or cause trauma to the urethra).</li>
<li>It will restrict your mobility during labor. Depending on other possible risk, you will be limited to the bed, and perhaps your back. </li>
<li>It will provide a level of numbness... some women it fully numbs them to the point they cannot move their bodies from the ribcage and down without assistance, some women can feel quite a bit of discomfort even after the epidural and move without assistance).</li>
<li>It will deprive both baby and you of your natural production of endorphins, which allow for both of you to cope with pain (both during labor and you, postpartum).</li>
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That way, if their organic experience requires, or they request, an epidural, they know this information and nothing surprises them about it. We also talk about the possible risks, so that they can fully accept them, weighing the pros and cons in the moment having already read and understood the possible risks, and make an <i>empowered </i>choice free of the fear of unknowns. </div>
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Another thing I always suggest is watching one. Why? Well, for the same reason we encourage women to watch birth: it takes the mystery out of the experience. </div>
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When might a woman choose an epidural? </div>
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<li>For pain management - some women simply want to have that control over their experience. Although the control over pain requires they relinquish control over their bodies and their functions, many women accept this and feel this is best suited for their needs. </li>
<li>For emotional and mental clarity - some women who have had sexual trauma or birth trauma in their past prefer to labor and birth with an epidural. We talk through their desires, including the fact that it might be triggering based on it taking away mobility and possibly requiring mom to feel 'tied down' and on her back. If she feels confident about the choice, we usually try to move the equipment and tubes/wires all onto one side of the bed so that she can feel less restrained. </li>
<li>For rest - a number of women cope marvelously well with labor and only even consider an epidural to rest... this is usually the case when she is going on days without sleep. </li>
<li>For a reset - this would be the case when moms labor pattern becomes 'dysfunctional' from maternal exhaustion (cntx space or stop, sometimes with ROM, but stay intense, usually after long early labors, and dilation stalls along with it). In certain situations mom and her provider might feel an epidural combined with pitocin will be the best thing to get her a vaginal birth.</li>
<li>As a tool for vaginal birth - if the woman is unable to relax her legs and pelvic floor to allow for dilation to occur, or if she is beginning to run a fever and, although contractions are strong and dilation is occurring, she needs baby to be born sooner than later and opts for a more aggressive augmentation, she might choose an epidural as a tool to help her achieve a vaginal birth. </li>
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In all of these situations a woman can feel empowered that she chose an epidural that fit her needs for her birthing time when she is fully educated and understands the possible outcomes, and the desired results. </div>
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The <i>one</i> situation where I find women routinely don't feel good about their choice? </div>
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<li>For fear - fear of the future (how much longer will this take? I don't think I can do this much longer), of the pain (how much more painful is this going to get, I can't take too much more painful), fear of an intervention (I heard pitocin is horrible, if we add that, I can't do it... I can't stand those cervical checks, one more and I want an epidural), or of the experience (if it feels like this now, how will it feel later? My friend told me pushing felt this way and that's scary to me). </li>
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In these cases, we try to get to the root of these fears and dispel them. I remind them that any choice made in fear is not a good choice, even if you would make the same choice without fear. So we attempt work through that fear to see if they still feel the same about the intervention afterward. </div>
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Have you had an empowering epidural? Did you experience an <i>un-empowering </i>epidural? Do you know what might have made the experience better or helped you make a different choice? </div>
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<br />Nicole Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00221401549139626688noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post-79148762213235769792015-12-11T15:11:00.002-06:002015-12-12T18:19:18.202-06:00Local Breastfeeding Mishap - Pearls From SandWe've all heard the stories in our own areas:<br />
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"I was nursing my baby when our server came up and asked me to cover up. When I told her I was fine, but thanks for the concern, she picked up my napkin and tried to drape it over my babies face"...<br />
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"I was nursing in Target on one of the benches near the dressing rooms. The sales associate asked me to go into the dressing room to nurse. I told her I was fine where I was and my 2 and 4 year old's wouldn't do well in such a small space. She kept insisting and then even left to get a manager to try to get me to move. You could tell she was uncomfortable with my nursing my 2 month old"...<br />
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"I was breastfeeding my 4 week old when a nearby patron glared at me, wrinkled their nose in disgust, and told me I should have more class than that. She went on the complain to her friend that I was being slutty and wanted attention. I tried to ignore them but it hurt. Then, to add insult to injury, the manager came up and asked me to please, 'at least' cover up for the comfort of everyone else in the restaurant."<br />
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But here's a story of another sort... this morning I saw a story circulating in my feed of a local Houston woman who says she was asked to leave when nursing her baby at a local restaurant. So she moved her nursing into the bathroom.. but the server supposedly followed her in and asked her to leave. So she left to her car. Supposedly. But we don't have necessary information, and rumors abound...<br />
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Rumors are swirling that it didn't happen at all.. or that she was trying to nurse in the 21+ club area... or that she was unhappy with her meal... regardless though....<br />
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Why do I say supposedly?<br />
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<li>Because the original person it involves is MIA. No one knows who it is.</li>
<li>The screen shot circulating is "my friend" or "an acquaintance of mine" and then the story"... no actual story from the horse's mouth</li>
<li>Other breastfeeding mamas have come forward and said they have never had a problem nursing there</li>
<li>The owners themselves, the woman used to be a breast milk donator for the Texas Children's Hospital Milk Bank</li>
<li>Employees and security footage supposedly tells another story, and the owners are willing to share it and set the record straight... </li>
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But the biggest reason I don't necessarily believe this really was a situation that even happened? Or at least not the way it was portrayed on social media?<br />
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The owners of El Patio ("club no minors") have set up an event to set the record straight, reestablish how family friendly they are, promote breastfeeding education and awareness, show how breastfeeding friendly they are, and give back to their community all in one fell swoop.<br />
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<a href="https://www.facebook.com/events/473428852858827/" target="_blank">From the event's details</a>:<br />
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Join us along with pro-breastfeeding community in Houston to help bring awarenes to the importance of breastfeeding and its importance in early childhood.<br />
Breastfeeding is an important start to a child's life. There is a lot of misinformation around breastfeeding and its importance, as well as the support for Mom's to meet their goals. It's hard work!<br />
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Many moms don't breastfeed because of their fear or embarrassment of nursing in public, even though they have a legal right to do so. Mothers are frequently shamed when they breastfeed in public.<br />
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When word of an incident gets shared, fellow moms and caregivers band together to stand up for them. Mothers are a fierce group! Rarely, stories get twisted and confused, and aren't accurate.<br />
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El Patio, recently experienced one of these incidents where our 50 year reputation as a family restaurant was challenged. We are taking the opportunity to give back and help create awareness to this issue. </blockquote>
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Join us for a "Feed In" from 11-3pm on Sunday, December 13th. El Patio will donate 20% of all sales during this time to <a href="https://www.facebook.com/donatebreastmilk/">Mothers' Milk Bank at Austin</a> to support their Houston outreach and efforts.</blockquote>
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Please bring your families and friends to help support all mothers in Houston!</blockquote>
To <a href="https://www.facebook.com/events/473428852858827/" target="_blank">read more information or to attend the event, see here</a>.<br />
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I'll update this post as I hear more information, but in the meantime, I have to say, <b>I love this businesses response!</b> They could have simply refuted it and showed their evidence. They could have just made a public apology. They could have just made a public statement... but they are giving back to their community, taking this opportunity to educate their community, and give to a very worthy organization.<br />
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So bravo El Patio! I hope to see you on Sunday!<br />
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<b>UPDATE:</b><br />
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So I've gotten some disgruntle-mail, people calling me a victim-blamer and a non-supporter of breastfeeding. This is the furthest from the truth... I have been to many nurse-ins, help women breastfeed and extended breastfeed, etc... the problem is that this isn't the norm.. I've never seen a woman not willing to stand by her word that she was attacked for breastfeeding and shamed. I've never seen a case where everyone else is so fired up from a second-hand account. This is classic 'telephone' (you know, the game we played when we were kids).<br />
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I believe that one of these is the case:<br />
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<li>there is no woman, someone just wanted to start something</li>
<li>there IS a woman, but she hasn't come forward because she made it up or the issue wasn't breastfeeding and she was just finding something to complain about (i.e. trying to take a baby into the 21+ section and upset she couldnt)</li>
<li>there IS a woman, but since making that first accusation, she found out she was wrong and it was a misunderstanding</li>
<li>there IS a woman and she hasn't come forward yet because she's getting her legal ducks in a row</li>
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All that said, even if there IS a woman and this DID really happen, since when is someone guilty until proven innocent? Until I hear it 'from the horses mouth' it's just a second hand story and you cannot refute that.<br />
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<b>UPDATE #2: </b><br />
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So, the restaurant has surveillance footage and testimony from the waitstaff that night. There WAS a woman who had an infant who tried to access the 21+ area, but there wasn't an 'issue'... that same woman was also harassed by someone who was <i>not</i> employed by the restaurant (a patron) for nursing. That person did follow her in the restroom and did come across authoritative. The woman has recanted her story, saying that she thought the patron was a member of the waitstaff. She never intended for the information to get on social media and the friend who's screenshots were shared all over social media never wanted or intended for her information to be shared outside of their private parenting group..<br />
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I feel badly for the mom that a PATRON had such an air of authority that she felt shamed from doing something that SHE HAD the authority to do. I feel badly that she UNINTENTIONALLY set off a firestorm. I'm sad that the business was hurt by this story and that there was such a wildfire siege on their business from angry (mislead but understandable) breastfeeding mamas. I am SO HAPPY that they are all choosing to do right - the mother has rescinded her story, the friend has made an apology in the private group, and the business has decided to make the best of and do the most that they can for this incidence. Beauty from ashes, pearls from sand.. I am in love with humanity right now; now if only the people who have made yelp and FB reviews would rescind them.... </div>
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<br />Nicole Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00221401549139626688noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post-61619462570531744172015-11-12T10:00:00.000-06:002015-11-12T10:00:07.766-06:00Cervical Espionage<div style="text-align: center;">
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Espionage - <i><span class="st">spying to obtain
information that is considered secret or confidential without the
permission of the holder of the information. </span></i><br />
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Not trying to be a rabble rouser or anything, but I hear this <i>all. the. time! </i>A mama comes back from her providers appointment (both OBs and MWs appointments) and I hear about how their provider gave them a cervical check that hurt badly. Sometimes there's bloody show afterwards, sometimes there's mild cramping.<br />
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Yes, sometimes that's just how our cervix' feel when we are fully pregnant... When you are around 36 weeks, oftentimes a provider will perform an exam a little different from ones prior. During this exam, they will be feeling for:<br />
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<ul>
<li>your ischial spines</li>
<li>your cervix (how open it is, how soft it is, and what direction it's pointing)</li>
<li>your baby (how low or high they are and if it feels like they're head down</li>
</ul>
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This can, at times, feel more invasive and uncomfortable... But more often than naught, especially if there is 'sharp' discomfort, the provider might be 'helping mom out' by stripping her membranes (also known as sweeping or stretching her membranes) in order to either get some of the dilation out of the way before labor begins, or to try to encourage labor.<br />
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A membrane strip/sweep/stretch is when the provider puts a digit (finger) or two inside the cervical opening and sweeps their fingers left and right, around the inside rim of the cervix. This stretches the cervix and breaks the seal that the mucosa has on the amniotic sac adhering it to the cervix. This can cause enough irritation and pressure on the cervix that it <i>might</i> put a woman into labor....<br />
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<b><span style="color: #741b47;">The problem is, both of these are often done without a woman's consent</span></b>.<br />
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When most first time moms think 'cervical check' they're thinking it will be like prior exams... Providers <i>assume </i>the woman knows what will be happening and what to expect. But, when a woman is given a procedure without the provider discussing it or getting her consent, that's assault. There, I said it.<br />
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A routine exam can give provider <i>and </i>mom useful information prior to birthing, but it will <i>not </i>tell you how long your labor will be, how soon it will happen, or how short it will be. Some things to consider:<br />
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<ul>
<li>It can give you a false sense of discouragement - feeling that your body isn't doing what it needs to, when in fact it's perfectly normal to not make cervical progress until you're in labor.. and it's perfectly normal to go into labor anytime between 38-42 weeks</li>
<li>It can give you a false sense of impending labor - feeling that you are going to go into labor any moment can be daunting... a sense of excitement and anticipation, followed by let down if it doesn't happen (see point #1) within your providers projected time frame</li>
<li>It can increase your risk for infection</li>
<li>Sometimes your water is accidentally broken</li>
<li>Sometimes it causes discomfort or bleeding</li>
<li>Some women report a feeling of violation when you don't know what to expect</li>
</ul>
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Sometimes a membrane sweep will work to bring on labor beautifully. Other times, it can:<br />
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<ul>
<li>cause cramping for 12-24 hours without any dilation or labor starting</li>
<li>cause cramping for 12-24 hours with dilation, but then stopping and no labor commencing</li>
<li>cause maternal exhaustion (inability to sleep) to occur more commonly because of the 12-24 hours of cramping that occurs prior to labor fully commencing </li>
<li>cause bleeding</li>
<li>introduce bacteria, increasing the risk for intrauterine infection</li>
<li>accidentally break her water, with or without contractions</li>
<li>cause a woman to question her ability to go into labor on her own</li>
</ul>
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A better option: providers, tell the women that you are serving (because that's what you're doing, serving her during her time of pregnancy and birth) what you want to do, hope to find, and the risks and possible benefits - and let her decide what she wants you to do to her body.<br />
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Were <i>you </i>given a membrane sweep? Were you asked prior to it being performed? Did it 'work' (within 24 hours of the procedure)?<br />
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Additional reading:<br />
<a href="http://medicine.tums.ac.ir:803/Files/Article/8217/Effect%20of%20Membrane%20Sweeping%20at.pdf" target="_blank">Effect of Membrane Sweeping atTerm Pregnancy on Duration of Pregnancy andLabor Induction: A Randomized Trial </a><br />
<a href="http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/703499" target="_blank">MedScape's Guide To Membrane Sweeping</a><br />
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