tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post5116809642947669955..comments2024-01-23T12:04:07.663-06:00Comments on Bellies and Babies: Doula Rule #1Nicole Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00221401549139626688noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post-72042629701572378412008-09-20T21:49:00.000-05:002008-09-20T21:49:00.000-05:00I've only told one doc, in a firm but non-adve...I've only told one doc, in a firm but non-adversarial way, that I didn't work for him (he had called me in the hall & told me I needed to get my client on board with the repeat cesarean he wanted to do...it was late afternoon on December 31.)<BR/><BR/>But excellent point, and one I try to stress, that the clients must introduce us and empower us in the eyes of the hospital to be there and assist them.DoulaMommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17436946151898233317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post-18100317381563948092008-09-20T20:29:00.000-05:002008-09-20T20:29:00.000-05:00And I concur whole heartedly with what you have ju...And I concur whole heartedly with what you have just said as well. I think we are in agreement here. Nice to have friends like you!slh35661https://www.blogger.com/profile/16067392139236549941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post-27340471457249289022008-09-20T08:35:00.000-05:002008-09-20T08:35:00.000-05:00slh (i.e. Traveling Midwife) Thank you for your 'o...slh (i.e. Traveling Midwife) Thank you for your 'other side of the story'. Yes, I know a doula (new doula - not in this area) who is like that as well. <BR/><BR/>But, by and large, (as you stated) doulas try to KEEP from those types of situations - we don't like animosity at a birth, we are about nurturing, protection, and compassion. We only if we HAVE to will we rock the boat. <BR/><BR/>Ei - I know I have said it before, but I will say it again - I am not anti-OB (I had OBs for 4 of my children's births), but I don't like what I see sometimes. There are GREAT OBs out there - it is just, when it goes bad, it goes BAD.Nicole Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00221401549139626688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post-82306567145118962512008-09-19T20:39:00.000-05:002008-09-19T20:39:00.000-05:00nuff saidnuff saidJennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07678347955604173755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post-29025317229876037402008-09-19T15:54:00.000-05:002008-09-19T15:54:00.000-05:00I am 99.9% with ya. The only time I would disagree...I am 99.9% with ya. The only time I would disagree was the example I delt with one time of a woman who called herself a doula, though I am suspicious she was just a neighbor of the woman in labor, who was the most biligerant woman I have ever had the unpleasure of dealing with in the doula role. Now, don't misunderstand me...I LOVE when my laboring moms have a doula present. The doulas are normally wonderful, helpful, supportive, and have even helped me on occassion in ways I would never have imagined (yeah for doulas!). But in that one case I did ask that doula to leave, almost called security on her, because she was just so hateful to us and was making the laboring mom into this distrustful person I couldn't do anything for. It was a mess. I finally got it through to the mom and her husband that I had every intention of advocating for her and her baby, and that we were not going to force her into things she didn't want. I was so emotionally drained after that one I just wanted to spit. So my point here is that 99.9% of the time, I am with you about this, but there are occassions where asking someone to leave the room is just so as a provider I can talk one on one with the patient and the family to make sure I get their real intentions. Then again, I don't have a surgical knife I can sharpen and just call a c-section, so it is different then being a physician.<BR/>By the way...great face presentation video. Where to you find these cool things?slh35661https://www.blogger.com/profile/16067392139236549941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post-61495513594408466732008-09-19T13:37:00.000-05:002008-09-19T13:37:00.000-05:00Very good point!Isolation is a key factor in abuse...Very good point!<BR/><BR/>Isolation is a key factor in abuse: isolate your victim so that you can better manipulate them.mamaloohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16008463722100685824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772459128704388678.post-27260748034751649302008-09-19T13:04:00.000-05:002008-09-19T13:04:00.000-05:00Did you actually say that to an OB? If so, you're ...Did you actually say that to an OB? If so, you're my hero =)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com